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because I'm still in a court custody battle for my bro and sis, can't leave for another year or so.
Originally posted by Hefficide
reply to post by penninja
I think you misinterpreted my statements. Please let me clarify.
I've never put work ahead of family. My family always has and always will be the number one priority in my life. They come first. Period. This includes my time. I am not a workaholic who ignores his kids in the pursuit of money. If any member of my family needs me, I am there, no questions asked and no worries for the fallout.
My parents divorced when I was young and my mother had a very Bohemian mentality. I went from upper middle classed to dirt poor. If you ask her about that period she will wax melancholy and talk about how free she was and how wonderful the world was back then. From my POV? I had to fight in school because the other kids mocked me for being poor and for having second hand clothing. At eleven I started delivering papers for money. At fourteen I began washing dishes, full time, after school... just to put food on the table for my younger sister and I.... All while Mom lived the dream of personal freedom.
I think this is probably why I ( as somewhat suggested in a previous post ) went through such a rowdy and disenfranchised phase in my later teen years.
So, yes, nice things are important to me and I want those things for my family. My kids never suffered poverty and they never knew the pain of being ostracized or mocked over it. They were not spoiled but they had enough.
If you can't relate, then maybe that speaks volumes also. If you're kids are happy then that's awesome. But if you're like my mother was, thinking they're fine when they aren't?
Not accusing, just saying sometimes our perspective is not the same as those around us might have.