wanted to input my thoughts on a separate post..
Me and a close friend of mine, of 30+ years, have been talking about this very thing.
He has been married 3 times, needless to say and a few broken relationships; why you may ask, simple. He can't stand the women with an attitude of
'whining' the proverbial 'normal' life as in work and 8 hour job, come home, sleep go back to work routine.' He's a professional musician of 30
years but remains struggling to find a niche for his musical talent due to him being fully disabled.
Now, I'm NOT saying this of ALL women, so lady's don't even go there.
However, he doesn't expect any women should walk 3 feet behind him either, he's full blooded American, but, over the years, he sees a HUGE
difference in women, and we both believe it’s the economy that is driving this ‘attitude / mindset’ of finding the best mate for you lifestyle.
And for this, he’s looking to other countries that women recognize authority of a man and the ‘real’ security they can offer, where money comes
last, as one Russian woman said it so plainly in a email he forwarded to me and I quote
“anyone, man or woman, can find a job, even if just pumping gas, but, true love is something so rare that I would risk leaving my friends and
family and my corporate job to be with the man I love, whether or not he had a dime
Yea, my jaw literately dropped after reading that in the email~! Truly a diamond shining like the sun and if I wasn’t married, I would consider
moving ASAP !
I’ve had multiple relationships, and been married 4x, yea, count your blessing, out of all of them, only one was the biggest mistake of my life, and
coasted me much peace and stifled my life for 10years.
1) Women, need security, and expect it out of men, point blank. Women on welfare, that have children, can’t or won’t get off of it because of the
security it gives them. Point blank. As a member recently said it so eloquently in another thread…”Game, Set, Match”
a. This was the issue with my first wife, after getting married to the love of my life, found myself pushed on the street after 3 months,
literally. Why? She found a guy that had a solid career as a lineman; me, I was working in a convenience store at the age of 24. BAM~! Homeless in
2) Women in the states have lost the understanding of who men are & what the women’s role is in a relationship. As it states in ancient writings,
‘he shall have rule over you’, God speaking to Eve directly. Why would God say that?? Clearly Adam was with her and both ate the fruit TOGETHER.
(I’m only using this to illustrate a point, nothing more)
a. I believe it was because the evil one knew, he could manipulate the female mind easier than the male, for whatever reason; look at the females
of today’s society, they go shopping for anything to keep their minds off of stress. (I’m not saying this is a bad thing, but, I see it has a
habit, 9/10 times) It appealed to the female mind and created a feeling in her of…security.
b. So, henceforth, it is, and always has been, the role of the man to ‘make the decisions’ or IMO, ‘will have the authority to make the last
decision’, which will be final. Whether or not, it’s a good one or a bad one. That is the load we carry, it’s our job as men to make decisions
of security. Why? Because that is the way we were made from birth to death.
3) Some women marry to have a good image to their parents & social circles. Game, Set, Match. Why? Social security. They want to show their social
circles how successful they are; what woman wants to have a slug of a husband/ boyfriend that does nothing all day, or can’t hold a job, let alone
look for one? Answer: NONE, only if they’re in that same circle.
a. I’m NOT talking about those guys, I’m talking about guys that struggle to keep it together for themselves/ family to work at a job till
something comes along better.
b. Now this is not to say that women don’t expect to have their man be a man either. I used to have a friend of mine who never ever made a
manly decision for the family. It was always “what ever you want dear” and that ended fairly quickly as she felt like she was always wearing the
pants in the family.
4) Men do not take the role as a man in the relationships because they are afraid of having their woman leave them or afraid of them not ‘getting
a. Men and women that do this childish act deserve what they sow…misery and loneliness. This, IMO, is more practiced of women than men and only in a
few cases will I condone such action: but, usually only creates worst scenario, and if the relationship get to this point, call it off or reconsider
your motives for being in the relationship in the first place.
b. Sexual practices as always been considered ‘sacred’ thing, a term used to describe something of a spiritual nature, Christian, Muslim,
Hindu, etc, ALL have this agreement. It has always been treated as such and should still be. Most abuse it and consider it ‘just a thing’. Those
that do consider it sacred, whether or not, they’re in a marriage or not, are the ones that receive the best things in life. Think about that for a
c. Women that conduct such a mindset, are deeply malicious, and only seek men to act accordingly to their desires they have for the
relationship. VERY few, will stop.
d. Men that will do ‘anything’ just to keep they’re male enhancement satisfied, are weak minded and will fall for anything; usually will
seek out a female that will control them to the uttermost, in everything. No backbone, and have nothing to chat about with other men. I’m saying
this of men that want this as a lifestyle, not just a bedtime fantasy.
My 2c worth of a subject of personal experience, until women realize the man himself can be her security without money & status, “all will be right
in the world”