posted on Aug, 18 2012 @ 04:24 PM
For quite some time now, I’ve supported the gay rights movement. I believe what two consenting adults choose to do is none of my business, nor the
business of anyone else. I believe that same-sex couples should have all the rights and privileges of traditional couples with regards to marriage.
I believe that homosexuals are people, and should not be defined by their sexuality anymore than someone should be defined by their race, religion, or
creed. I’ve been somewhat vocal about this on ATS, and other online communities. Those who know me are well aware of my beliefs and know my stance
on this issue.
But today, I had to confront a very difficult question. Am I a hypocrite? I think the answer is…..yes.
So why share this with the ATS community? Because it caused me to think, to reflect, to take the time to truly examine myself. Hopefully, what I
share may cause you to do the same.
Here’s what happened. My son, husband, and I went to the movies after running some errands. We went to see ParaNorman, a creepy kids’ film about
a young boy who talks to the dead and must save his town from an undead apocalypse. Anyway, throughout the movie there is a “beefcake” young man
and the “Barbie” teenage girl characters; the girl is obviously quite taken with the young man, who remains mind-numbingly oblivious to her
At the end of the film, the girl asks the young man out on a date to see a romantic comedy. At which point the young man replied, “Sure! I’ll
bring my boyfriend. He loves those chick flicks.”
I gasped. The entire audience gasped (about twenty folks). And I immediately recognized the problem with my reaction.
The fact is, I didn’t like my 6 year old son hearing that declaration. It was a visceral reaction, not a conscious one at all. Almost like an
instinct, I guess you could say.
But wait! I support gay rights! I believe consenting adults can do whatever they want! So why would this bother me on such a deep and fundamental
I’ve pondered this all afternoon and I’m sure I’ll be pondering it for days to come…and that’s good. Obviously I need the introspection,
because maybe I’ve been a hypocrite all this time.
When I consider things logically, I KNOW that if I support homosexual rights (and yes, I still do), then I should have no objection to my child
viewing a movie with homosexual characters (let me be clear, I think he’s too young at the moment to have any idea what homosexuality means, but
I’m speaking rhetorically at the moment). After all, if I believe homosexuality to be a legitimate lifestyle, then I should expect to see examples
of homosexuality in day-to-day life and THAT SHOULD BE OKAY.
Why did I gasp? Was it just surprise, as I tend to believe after much introspection? If just surprise, then why that sense of unease over the joke
(which was pretty funny)?
So I’m laying it on the line and asking for your advice, ATS. Have you ever paid lip service to an ideal, only to be surprised when that ideal
became a reality? Did it fundamentally change you, help you to grow as a person? I truly believe these rare moments are what help us to grow
spiritually, help us better understand life and our place in it. So what events have you experienced that maybe shook your foundations, if only just
And let me add this. I foresee the possibility that this thread will derail into a gay-bashing melee. I will not tolerate this. This thread is NOT
about the rights of homosexuals, but about how personal beliefs can be challenged in surprising ways. Please, lets stay focused and keep our replies
thoughtful and respectful.