reply to post by smyleegrl
In all honesty, I think you are reading too much into your reaction. It was obviously intended to surprise the audience, and it worked on you. The
very fact that it surprised you has got you thinking about it, and why you were so surprised. You probably would have had the same surprised reaction
if he pulled off a latex mask and he was actually black, right? So the fact the you and the rest of the audience were surprised is irrelevant IMO.
Have you really never thought about how the discussion might go with your son?
I don't have kids, but I have seven nephews and a niece, my closest friend has two sons and a daughter, my "high school sweetheart" has two sons -
my sexuality has never been hidden from any of them. When I've had boyfriends they've met them. When family have been discussing things around the
table - such as holidays and visits etc - it's never been an issue.
The problem is that parents MAKE it an issue by treating it as a problem. If a child grows up never exposed to other religions, or other races, what
do you think happens to them? If your son was raised never having seen a TV set in his life, how do you think he would react when he saw one?
I have seen this myself in a friend of a friend. I was out celebrating with said "childhood sweetheart" for her birthday, and a few of us wanted to
go on to a gay club after. One of her friends - who was raised without exposure to anything (seriously, she was almost raised in a bubble) - refused
to go. She "didn't understand" my life, and was scared of something.
This is the world we live in, like it or not. By shielding children from things that the majority of society thinks is no big deal parents are doing
their children an injustice. Parents who raise their kids to ignore reality are not doing their jobs of preparing them for the world, and their kids
will suffer as a result of that.
I'm not saying you're a pad parent, you're obviously not. I just think that you haven't had the opportunity to make it clear that this is normal.
Do you have gay friends? Gay members of your family? How are they treated by everyone?
By making it an "outside" issue you're creating the issue where there doesn't need to be one. I don't think you need to do anything other than
welcome people into your life regardless of race, religion, sexuality and so on. Invite "Joe" from down the street to the next BBQ and tell him to
bring his boyfriend. Watch that episode of Ellen in the afternoon. Don't shy away from things and try to shield your son from reality. If he has
questions, answer them.
Kids are not scared to ask questions, parents are scared to answer them. If you treat it like it's an issue, you make it into one.
That's my opinion. I think you're a great parent already, because you have the balls to ask yourself these questions honestly. You're not afraid of
confronting yourself about these things, and that's a more responsible attitude to have. Plenty of other parents wouldn't even be thinking about
these things, they'd just shut their ears and eyes and raise ignorant children.
So well done on that!