Have You Seen the Attention-Grabbing New TIME Cover?

Attention: GRABBED!

I stopped accepting the boob and the bottle at around nine months (so I'm told). Do I have a "breast fetish"? No more than the average man I would think.

My son weaned himself around a year and a half and I had no issues with that.

Breast feeding is in no way pornographic or sexual. When I have seen this in public (or in my own home) I don't think to myself "woohoo, boobies!!!", it actually is a calming and endearing picture to me. A natural bonding of mother and child.

That being said I find it slightly disturbing to see a child that is most likely a functioning person (able to walk, talk, dress themselves) breast feeding. It is a social taboo and I accept that.

Saying that a person should throw away a three year olds toys because they have to learn that the world sucks is a little harsh. However, if your 17 year old is still spending hours in her room playing with dolls there may be an issue.

Children develop at different rates and we as parents need to help that development as much as we can. When my child was baby I fed him and held him. When he was a toddler I played games with him and read books with him. As he aged and his motor skills developed our time spent together changed. As a teenager we played sports together or talked about school and life in general.

Life is a journey we experience with our children. We have to accept that they will grow up and develop into thier own personalities. I see this picture not as porn, but as a woman that doesn't want her child to "grow up and leave her". Empty nest syndrome while the nest is still occupied.

reply to post by Starchildren


kellymom.com...

This is up to 2 primarily well pat teeth and up until 2 there have many studies, the benefit to the immune system is immense.

en.wikipedia.org...

PICS, so click at your own risk. But benefits of breast milk are far better than anything you could ever buy, and for as long as you can do it without discomfort, ie, 3 is not a big issue.

All I 'm seeing is poorly educated opinions.

Do I think this should be the cover of Time, NO! He will be embarasssed when he's older.

reply to post by Helix2112


Ignore me...I don't think so....come visit us and learn...we love life...as we should.....why is hate entered into this?.....the GOVernment....now make it right or make it dead.....

reply to post by seeker11


The kid according to the article is 3 years old.

He is over half her height and she is a model.

To me he looks to be around 6-7.

Again, 3 is too old in my opinion.

A baby yes, a toddler, no................but everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

And corruption does not occur overnight.

It is taken step by step, inch by inch. It begins slowly little by little weaving the sacred into the profane ever so slowly, so delicately that before you know it the sacred has decayed and died.

Again, at three, the little darlings have a full set of teeth, possibly nature's way of saying, "it's time to chew your own food."

reply to post by Starchildren


I am sorry if this sounds harsh or judgemental but it isn't intended to be.

You didn't "attachment parent" if you only breast fed until 6 months.

Also, if you only did some aspects of "attachment parenting" then it sounds as though you were most likely going down the path of "permissive parenting" which is what happens when parents get confused about what "attachment" painting is.

Permissive Parenting:

Permissive parents:

Have few rules or standards of behavior

When there are rules, they are often very inconsistent

Are usually very nurturing and loving towards their kids

Often seem more like a friend, rather than a parent.

May use bribery such as toys, gifts and food as a means to get child to behave
The Effects of Permissive Parenting

Children raised by permissive parents:

Lack self-discipline

Sometimes have poor social skills

May be self-involved and demanding

May feel insecure due to the lack of boundaries and guidance

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Attachment parenting is essentially on demand breast deeding, having a family bed and an absolute crap load of communication.

It is not letting your child get what ever they want and saying yes to their demands. It is about compromise on the part of the parent and on the part of the child.

Children need clear boundaries and thrive on clear guidance but they also must have their needs, wants and yes, even demands, listen to and considered.

reply to post by AnonymousCitizen


Information on maternal/baby health sites around the world on when to wean a kid off the breast varies from ages 6 months through to 5 years. What they all encourage is that it becomes a mutual decision between the mother and child. Really it's no one else's business and really an image like that one is nothing but provocative in nature and very unnecessary. I think it reflects how desperate Time Magazine has become in its endeavour to be noticed on the shelf.

Btw..... the average age of males who still hang off the breast is 50.

reply to post by AnonymousCitizen


Let's be realistic. There's a LOT more suggestive content being shown elsewhere and were complaining about this? HAHA (Not referring to OP, just people in general)

No wonder America is 'falling apart'

reply to post by Unity_99

Lucky kids nurse until 2, but most moms wean when they start biting.

Yep and when they start chomping down and you tell them, "Do not bite with your teeth or no more mama milk" and they continue to chomp, well they get weened real fast.

reply to post by ofhumandescent

Why don't you do some research??

The cover of the May 21, 2012 issue of Time magazine shows Jamie Lynne Grumet, 26, breastfeeding her 3-year-old son for a story on "attachment parenting

Source

Well if they were out to grab attention, they sure succeeded. This is most popular topic on ATS right now.

And I can't be all on my high-horse about it either because here I am reading and commenting.

But after this post I will read no more and comment no more. I suggest we all move on back to discussion of more meaningful topics.

reply to post by Leftist


Star for you, with all the other major stuff going on all over the planet, the least of our worries is breast feeding.

Hey you moms out there, want to breast feed until junior is driving, go for it.




Isn't that funny how we always gravitate towards sexual or bodily functional aspects vs. our entire species and planet going down the tube.

I think my circumcision thread got a hundred hits or more but when I posted about the medical and retirement package of our Senators and Congress I got two hits.

People like to be distracted so they don't have to worry about the train that's coming.

My biggest issue with this is not a Mother who is breastfeeding a 3(THREE) year old child, rather with the way time magazine portrayed the event. The toddler is standing on a chair with both him and the Mother staring into the camera. I have never seen a Mother breast feed a child in public, but I am going to guess that this isn't the way it is done. Time magazine pictorialized this in a manor to create controversy. I don't think that I would go as far as labeling this pornography, but it certainly isn't an accurate portrayal of how a Mother properly breast feeds her child. I see a lot of anger with the Mother, but where is the anger that should be directed toward time magazine? My guess is that they spent many hours of discussion on how they were going to photograph this. I would also suggest that they knew the amount of controversy that this photograph would stir. I have to admit that I am surprised as to the amount of controversy it has caused on ATS, not so much so with those on my facebook.

Originally posted by Starchildren

Yes, I do think that radical extreme Attachment Parenting can create some problems down the road.

Sorry to say then you weren't doing it right. Attachment Parenting still requires firm and consistent boundaries and discipline. It's not a license to indulge a child. It's not about letting them do whatever they want but about being physically and emotionally available to the child until the child decides to separate naturally.

This woman also breast feeds her adopted child as well so there's a bit more to this than meets the eye.
And because Time magazine is MSM, I can do nothing but question their motives for publishing this on the front cover.
We all know the MSM is used to "conditioned" via the media and I see this as no different. I also have been around long enough to know that the motives are never pure or for own benefit.

As someone earlier in the thread mentioned would this be getting as much positive attention if it was an image of an unattractive obese woman feeding a 5 year old child? (The kid looks 5 to me sorry) The chances are we'd be more repulsed by the image.

I have no problem with what parents do parenting wise in the privacy of their own homes but I don't want to see it.
Anymore than going to the toilet being a natural non sexual act of life that I don't want to see up close either.

Sorry if that offends anyone but it's my opinion.

I love it, I love the whole idea of bringing this forward in the public domain.

Take a good look at yourself and discover what really drives you.

To me this is normal, this is natural and very beautiful.

reply to post by Leftist


No topic is more meaningful than child rearing.

If we get that right (which we, as a species, is only just heading in the right direction) then all our other problems start go away.

If we want to get child rearing right then we have to be more open minded and more accepting about what the latest research is telling us about how the human brain and body work. We have to be willing to change the way we do things and we have to let go of our pride and out ego to do that.

Just the fact that we are so sensitive and defensive over our parenting methods shows how important this topic really is.

Don't our Children deserve the absolute 100% best?? YES they do.

We don't ignore a new information on the prevention for a disease just because "we didn't do that when I was young and I turned out alright" do we? No we embrace it and save lives.

So why are we so resistant to new information on the beat way to raise our children? Its the single most important function of our society!!!

Child looks older than 3 yo, but I'll just have to take what they say.

I personally don't get whats wrong with showing something that's been around before humans existed (I think). I also don't see what's wrong with further breastfeeding if it gives the child nutrients. Better than shoving McDonald's in them.

UNLESS there's some evidence that having children on breast milk for greater than 3-4 has a positive correlation with some kind of social and or health problems (besides being a bit guilty to admit to it), I can't see why there is an issue

reply to post by kosmicjack


Absolutely right!

I think the big thing for people who don't understand "Attachment Parenting" or as my wife and I like to say "Conscious Parenting" is the discipline side of things ... they think it is letting the kid do what ever they want ... but it is absolutely not!! Here is a excellent summary of the philosophy of discipline practiced in Attachment Parenting:

Attachment parents seek to understand the biological and psychological needs of the children, and to avoid unrealistic expectations of child behavior. In setting boundaries and limits that are appropriate to the age of the child, attachment parenting takes into account the physical and psychological stage of development that the child is currently experiencing. In this way, parents may seek to avoid frustration that occurs when they expect things beyond the child's capability. According to Arnall (2007), discipline means teaching the child by gentle guidance, such as re-direction, natural consequences, listening and modeling, and not by punitive means such as spanking, time-out, grounding, and punitive consequences.

Source

OK now i am just heart broken, this image is nothing compared to the images that burn in my chest right now as I sought to bring some pictures from the beef industry forward which is btw who perpetuates the real unnatural phenomena of feeding a child, and yes to me 3 is a baby and not too old for healthy nutrition, love and well being.

I will not be uploading any of the sick and twisted images of overly swollen female cows, tortured to the very end for the sake of milk who's energy is as demented as the unconscious comments posted in this thread.