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It was actually me who said that - it was a re-quote in one of the "whole post" quotes he re-posted. I said that for a reason - I try to target the reader in some way that they will have a visceral understanding of. I fear I may have gotten TOO visceral in his case... some people are very touchy and literal folk.
It's the same line I use on my teenage son, because he can grasp it, and it sticks in his mind.
Just in case you missed the quick pre-script edit I did above: don't take anything i say too literally just yet - I'm still catching up on the thread after getting home from work...
All I ask of you is that you quote me fairly and not just slam me down. I have a right to express myself and what I think in public as you do. I always react very defensively when I am dealt with unfairly.
Originally posted by Bluesma
reply to post by orangetom1999
So much of the stuff I am seeing up here is offensively ignorant ! The extremes going from « women are better than men » seem to so easily provoke others ones into the opposite extreme in response ! Both are ridiculous.
« How many of the women in this world...no matter what their education levels..are going to take the RISKS needed to keep and maintain the systems which make them comfortable, more productive, and safe?? How many of them even know how they work ..how they operate?? »
First of all, just in terms of physical risks, this is bull. Or, perhaps in your environment, the culture has created women of this nature and you have confused that with being universal inherent femininity ? I do not know, but I know that I am one of the biggest risk takers there is and I am a woman. Finding a mate able to be as adventurous and take the same level of risks as me has been difficult.
I have given up everything and become homeless for a time, in order to re-create a life I wanted (while being 8 months pregnant).Later I chose to let go of my job, my apartment,, all of my possessions, and my family, (my security)in order to set off for another country I knew nothing about, couldn’t speak the language in, and my boyfriend had no job or home there either !
But he was not able to take the risk of living too far from his mother, in a land he didn’t really know well, so to be together, one of us had to take the risk . He was too scared . So I did.
I struggled with not being able to communicate for years and learned to speak fluently without taking lessons. I bought a business myself, became a respected commercant in this region, and developed excellent relational skills with clients and peers. I did my own accounting (took night classes to learn) and became a baker, and was very successful. The amount of risk, financially, and being able to juggle having three kids and such a career was huge ! But I did it. I eventually sold my business for a very nice profit.
I bought a three year old barely broke horse and learned to ride. Worked on it every day for three years, getting help when I could, working alone, out on the streets, everywhere,. I spent much time in the emergency room, they knew me by my first name. I had to have surgery and spent much time in casts or bedridden, and still managed to get up on that horse again while wearing a cast or a brace on my leg, a bandage on my head, a neck brace.....
Now , ten years later, I am a rather good cavalière, with a horse of higher sensitivity and hotness, and skills in classical dressage as well as reining and roping. On the exterior, I ride in isolated nature alone for days, and take risks I cannot even TELL my husband about because he’d have a heart attack !
Now I'm setting off into my new passion of scuba diving, and I am sure risks will be involved there too, just like everything in life of any value.
This thing about men being so much better at taking risks is something I have just not seen in life. At All. The men I have known in life seem rather concerned with stability and not rocking their security boat- and they have called me « wild » or else « unconscious of risks ». I have been called irrational by men who don’t know me well and aren’t aware that my risks are calculated and goal driven- I just don’t shout out to everyone else what I am doing, like they are more likely to do. I set my jaw, forge forward and focus on my vision of goal without wasting energy.
Besides the physical and financial risks that some people just don’t ever find occasion to face, women take emotional risks more often then the men I have known. Men are much less likely to take emotional risks, and usually are much less adept at mastering of their emotions, and so resort to oppressing them instead of directing them.
Women are not better than men, nor are men better than women, but they may have different ways of seeing things and responding to them. But fear of risk taking is not part of the general difference, except in how education plays a role in a specific culture.
Originally posted by carolina
I live in a small village in Mexico and have had the opportunity to be with groups of young mothers and their small children. A couple of years ago I observed a big difference between the little boys and the little girls. The girls were bright eyed, curious and animated. In other words normal. The boys however seemed listless, dull, uninterested and well abnormal. The older boys now are wild, very bratty and a general pain in the ... you know. Why? My theory is the 32 vaccinations these children receive by age two is affecting boys differently than the girls. If its true that we are all being led into a slave state wouldnt they want the boys to be more maliable, easier to manipulate than the generally peaceful girls. Four times now I have been told by adult men who are working for the government cutting down the trees, spraying toxic gas to control mosquitos, etc that they had their orders. It made my skin crawl. The problems between men and women are far bigger than whats going on in the USA. It is everywhere. The men here are also uncaring about their families not like in the states but they never attend school functions, buy their wives gifts or treat the family like the center of their world, even though they in fact are the glue that holds it all together. I think that this is more than a social issue, I thinks its been chemically engineered and is gonna get worse. Just my two cents-
Originally posted by Revolution9
reply to post by nenothtu
Cool! Personally, I think there is room for both of us in this world. I am glad you are there and who you are. I don't want us all to be the same anyway.
However, there are some real problems in this world and there are reasons why those problems are there. I am just soul searching because I have been on the receiving end of those "problems".
All I ask of you is that you quote me fairly and not just slam me down. I have a right to express myself and what I think in public as you do. I always react very defensively when I am dealt with unfairly.
Originally posted by orangetom1999
nenothtu,
LOL LOL LOL...
I'm going to make some popcorn and a drink. I'll be back to get a front row seat!!
I am being humorous of course. This is a serious topic and hope some of us learn from it.
But nonetheless thanks for the show. I am indeed putting on my thinking cap.
As for the Arabs...I dont feel sorry for them. For they too, when of mind and soul, will kill you if you blink. The discipline is not to blink or let them see you blink. This is a trait, I believe, long gone from much of our current crop of non leadership.
Originally posted by orangetom1999
Yes I understand why you would use this frame of reference with your son. I am, however, very concerned when I detect adults using it among other adults and they don't seem to have any real life experiences.
I think you understand this point..instinctively and with knowledge.
Am I to understand that you work the graveyard shift..or at least night shift...perhapsed a 12 hour shift??
I would myself prefer to get back on the graveyard shift. I am not much of a daytime person. Not very social except among a small exclusive hand picked group.
Originally posted by dragonseeker
if this is all true, I would like you to write a book about it. I'm not joking. every modern woman could learn from it.
Originally posted by Bluesma
Originally posted by dragonseeker
if this is all true, I would like you to write a book about it. I'm not joking. every modern woman could learn from it.
My husband has been trying to get me to do just that for years, and I just couldn't see the reason for it. But when I read some balderdash about women being so weak of heart, afraid of risks, superificial, incapable, materialistic, and yada, yada, yada..... I think some men need to wake up.
But then most of them wouldn't read it if it didn't have pictures.edit on 9-10-2011 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)
Besides the physical and financial risks that some people just don’t ever find occasion to face, women take emotional risks more often then the men I have known. Men are much less likely to take emotional risks, and usually are much less adept at mastering of their emotions, and so resort to oppressing them instead of directing them.
Originally posted by brilab45
reply to post by nenothtu
So woozy over your homoerotic avatar. The worst thing that comes to my mind is that you are are eating Cheetos and masturbating in your sock. Must suck being morbidly overweight. God....please mod's....just ban me for Christ's sake.