Originally posted by Mentalistbee
reply to post by justcurious31
Yes I have gone through a phone or two.
It's just that one item that's always within reach. The temptation is too hard to resist.
I remember, was actually a friend of mine. Who wanted a new phone, but her dad refused.
She got angry and slammed her phone onto the floor.
He thought she'd done it on purpose and insisted even more that she won't be getting a new one
I know it wasn't intentional, because she started sobbing, and picked up the phone like it was a baby.
I've seen this alot ..both among males and females.
Your friend wanted a new phone...Entitlement. Did it ever occur to your friend that what they were doing was asking their father to take on more RISK
in their fathers life to get the new phone for them without they...themselves taking on any new RISKS or doing any work??
I've seen this among women ...expecting their husbands to get them a new car to replace the olde one. What they are doing is responding to their
emotions as an Entitlement ..but never thinking that they are asking their men to take on more RISKS for their instant gratification/status.
There are many people out here who think and believe that their emotions are the same thing as what is just and correct...provided someone else takes
up the RISKS for them and flashdances them through lifes hurdles.
This is manipulation....also it is how some control freaks work. It is just not obvious to most people.
Not all control freaks are physical in what is being described in the OP's thread. Some control freaks are drama queens for their control
One of the guys at work told me about what his wife wanted...him to get her a new car..and she worked too.
I educated him to how this manipulation works. That she wanted him to take on more RISKS for her "Entitlement" beliefs. That marriage was such an
social "Entitlement" program. Why was she not buying him a new car?? Because she believed the RISKS were "Entitled " the other way around and only the
This kind of manipulation and control freak technique works off social rolls...social beliefs and social expectations.
It is also an example of male ignorance being Preyed upon through not being aware of how some people think that their emotions are what is right and
correct. PC is another word for this. It is a control mechanism.
Males fall for this kind of programming and manipulation because they cannot think past sports and performance programming...that their natural job is
to perform and flashdance others without work and without RISK to them.
Sports conditioning teaches men to run touchdowns for others without thinking. The women/females just substitute their plays for their mans plays. He
then runs their plays to the Entitled Conclusion/touchdown.
He is supposed to do the same thing for his children ...for cell phones...etc etc et al. Run touchdowns...score goals..and never ask about the RISKS
My point here is to be careful what you think is abuse or a control freak. It is often not as clear or even known as many think. We often dont know or
are not aware of the big picture.
This type of subtle control of others. ..is how politics works. It is also how many people are put in place of RISK for others ....taking First Place
RISKS ..while themselves coming in second, third, or further down the line themselves.
I can see how some people get frustrated in their lives under operations like this going on.
Be careful what some of you think is abuse or a control freak. Much of it is not done as we think or take for granted. Some of being a control freak
is very very subtle or feminine in it's nature.
Political Correctness....itself is often a type of control/manipulation over others...it is often control by censorship/guilt manipulation. It is very
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