Originally posted by graphuto
Who ever said anything about social problems that I have? Why are you turning this into an attack against me?

I'm not attacking you you just perceive the truths I am saying as an attack because they are demolishing what you hold to be true. What you hold to be true is patently false. Why you do this? Who knows. But the majority of people I know who talk about other people like you do, do so because their own problems have held them back and not the problems of others.

I've broken my hand before hitting a wall because a girl made me mad in school...and I'm a woman. I was, in younger days, far more hot tempered, as my first ex can tell you. He was a piece of excrement, but being young and in love, I didn't see it until the vows were made. I discovered exactly how dangerous I was when I hit him, and he wound up in the hospital.

I have punched multiple items, never a person unless it was in defense.

Two funny stories related.

1) One time, when I had first moved into this apartment, I had bought a new 'student' metal desk for my bedroom. Well, normally I have no troubles putting pieces of equipment/furniture together, that day was different. I forget why, but I had a lot on my mind, and this desk was just a p.i.t.a. to put together. After verbally abusing the air a few times, I came upon one of the last pieces to put together. Don't you know that they drilled the holes incorrectly. They were off, by my estimate, a good 2 inches. I lost it. Took the damn metal desk, and threw it across the room a few times. As soon as I was done throwing it, I was calm as a cucumber and put it together the next day. I did have to borrow a drill from work though

2) One time, when I was new to using contact lenses, I had an especially troubling time putting in the contact for my left eye. After a good 10 minutes, I still couldn't get it, and when I accidentally hurt my eye, by poking too hard, I saw red instantly. I didn't want to strike the mirror in the bathroom for 2 reasons. 1, I didn't want to lacerate my hand, and 2, I didn't want to break the mirror for my female roommate. A man who has lived with a woman knows NEVER deprive a woman of her mirror. Holy hell. Anyway, I lost my temper with the contact, so the only thing I could do, was to rip my work shirt in half. It was a button shirt, so it wasn't necessarily a Hulk moment, but the visual of seeing those buttons literally explode off the shirt was something I will never forget.

When dealing with people however, I have the patience of a saint. As angry as I can become, I can always remain calm enough to not lash out in either verbal, or physical abuse. Physical abuse only leads to more problems, it never solves them.

I never get mad enough to punch a wall lol..... maybe a person tho

Because anger is the only appropriate emotion men have been allowed to show. Whether your giddy, sad, guilty, heartbroken, confused, angry, sad. You are only allowed to show anger.

So it manifests itself in a lot of negative emotions instead of being handled properly.

Fortunately there is a new movement towards emotional intelligence so this fad of boys only allowing to be boys is slowly fading.

Im female and my inner beast comes out too.

I have punched a wall and dented a locker with my fist.

When I get mad, which isn't often it takes a lot to really get me mad but I usually want to punch something. IDK it makes me feel better, sounds nuts to some but it does. My hand doesn't feel so good sometimes but my frustration is released.


I know my ex was like this though. He never got mad but when he did he always hit something, usually the concrete wall on the patio. He would hit it then curse lol and he was fine.

Nice thread

Ive punched heaps of things, done some damage to myself too

Lately though Ive been a lot better and have been able to keep my anger in check

Originally posted by CN1018
It's not only men who do this. I have assaulted a wall or two in the past. I think women just hide it better.

Indeed. I have seen ex girlfriends become scary violent with rage.

If aint just men.

Originally posted by FoxfilesMulder
I regret scaring my wife...

But I do not regret the punch yet.

More disapproval, insults and constructive criticisms are needed please folks!

coming back & reading the thread, i can see why you posted this where you did.

you've got a jackass hypocrite that keeps posting how it's fine & dandy to punch a piece of exercise equipment all you want but thinks it's a completely different subject from punching some other inanimate object...

and a coont that is going out of her way to insult you, for no other reason than her own sad baggage.

mate, i give you credit for hanging in there on this thread. you've been a good thread host, and that counts for a lot. too many people post on ATS and -poof- just disappear. you've not only stuck in there, you've suffered fools pretty well. so good for you.

Originally posted by nixie_nox
Because anger is the only appropriate emotion men have been allowed to show. Whether your giddy, sad, guilty, heartbroken, confused, angry, sad. You are only allowed to show anger.

So it manifests itself in a lot of negative emotions instead of being handled properly.

Fortunately there is a new movement towards emotional intelligence so this fad of boys only allowing to be boys is slowly fading.

bless your heart nixie_nox. probably the most intelligent post in the thread. your perception and understanding is epic and i applaud you

you've got a jackass hypocrite that keeps posting how it's fine & dandy to punch a piece of exercise equipment all you want but thinks it's a completely different subject from punching some other inanimate object...

So you really don't understand why punching a heavy bag is different both in context and result than punching say a wall? Really? Or was that just a vehicle for your limp wristed insult?