Originally posted by AdamAnt
I thought i'd share this list I stumbled upon. I think this would be accurate for alot of folks here on ATS.
I know plenty of folk here at work think I'm weird because I typically have absolutly nothing to say to these people, because all they seem to to talk about all day is Call of Duty. For some reason however, I seem to be always surrounded by loud, obnoxious extrovert, especially in relationships. But I feel it helps balance everything out in the end.
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I hope this helps
Top ten myths about introverts
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
Originally posted by prumplymromblex
Another introvert checking in. The one exception to me being a introvert is I do enjoy adrenaline and exciting things. For example I am a storm chaser and absolutely love it.
But yes, I am definitely an introvert. I am much more at ease by myself. I can entertain myself through reading,
It does cause me social anxiety sometimes. I wonder why I can't be comfortable around groups of people and it causes me some stress and sadness. But it's just the way I am and I accept it.
But yes, give me a choice of being at a loud party or bar or club, or spending a nice relaxing evening by myself and I will pick the 2nd choice every time.
I agree, and I'm an extrovert ... which, in a way, I find to be a curse. I guess I am an extrovert trying to be an introvert ... it doesn't work.
IMO, people who really enjoy and who look forward to attending large crowded, loud parties or functions are usually either heavy drinkers or social drinkers who are often quite boring. There's nothing wrong with social drinking in a large crowded party, but I think there is an element of insecurity there. Also, if you were to overhear or listen in on their conversations there's not a whole lot of substance. Most of the conversations in those settings are nothing more than useless chatter.
You are probably an intelligent person who is most likely uncomfortable with superficial or boring people ... which is a good thing ... a plus, at least in my opinion, as it means you are genuine, as opposed to phony and superficial. The loud noise and shouting over each other combined with the alcohol relieves them of the responsibility of a normal conversation ... so, anything goes. People who lack the patience or the ability to tolerate idle useless chit-chat are called intelligent.
On another note, maybe you are uncomfortable around large groups of people, especially strangers, because your first (and also possibly second) experience was very stressful and/or very negative. You may or may not remember it, but typically when our first (and earliest) experience with something is negative, it sets the tone for the rest ... especially if it's reinforced a second time. In any case, I wouldn't worry or be concerned with this if I were you. Everyone is entitled to be who they are ... to each their own. Sometimes comparing ourselves to others is good, while other times it can chip away at our self-confidence or self-esteem.
Would you rather be considered authentic, genuine and intelligent OR superficial and boring?
edit on 19-11-2011 by Jana12 because: typo