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Originally posted by searching4truth
reply to post by guohua
While reading through the posts, I thought of the high suicide rate. It would be wonderful for my 14 yr old to play at Carnegie Hall, it would kill me if she committed suicide at 19 because she didn't make the symphony.
What the Chinese cultural stand on suicide? Is that not the ultimate failure, or do they see it differently.
I know where I come it is the most shameful thing, and many families lie when someone does.
Also, while I have your eye, I've always wondered something. I recall hearing that, oh about 20 years ago, that there was a huge problem with suicide and there were shoes lined up at train stations from the people that jumped. I was just curious if it was true.
Originally posted by LargeFries
reply to post by guohua
I did not think this thread could get more racist or condescending but I am wrong. I have pity in my heart for the spawn of the helicopter parent OP.
But reading what you do to children you supposedly love puts a pit in my stomach. Hopefully they will be wise enough to break the heavy chain that bound you when the time comes for them to raise children.
Because you have done something a certain way for a long time does not make it the best way or even the right way. It just shows lack of thought, originality and creativity. No growth. May as well be a mushroom.
At the age of three, her younger brother drowned while playing together in a kiddie pool, a fact that her parents have held over her for years. In this week's episode, it was revealed that her father used to tell her "It should have been you" during arguments.
This tension was augmented later in the season when every contestant's family sent in a home video greeting... except Ada's, leaving her in tears after a trainer pulled her aside to say there was no video waiting for her. During a make-over fashion show, she's relieved that the "loved one" waiting for her backstage is a female friend as she admits she was unsure how she'd react to her family being present after the home video diss.
Her struggle with a crippling lack of self-confidence and yearning for acceptance from her parents is a running theme... But in recent episodes, she's been given ample camera time in which she discusses, though vaguely, the cultural limitations placed on Asian American children. She expresses a desire to start a youth program for young folks to learn social skills and develop self-esteem.