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Telling your kid that Santa is a hideous lie does more then damage your
child's Christmas...it makes every other parent look at you like
complete madman. I can't even begin to tell you how many adults hav
debated this with me
we are almost forced to spend ridiculous amounts
on presents most people probably don't need or desire
Originally posted by LordBucket
I don't really understand the dilemna. I don't believe that Gandalf is real, but I enjoyed the Lord of the Rings movies. Why should Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny be any different?
I see no benefit to lying to children about such things.
I don't understand this either. Choose how you want to live. You don't need to celebrate other people's holidays, and you're not limited to them. If you don't like christmas, don't celebrate it. If you like every third wednesday, celebrate that.
Or hey...better yet, celebrate and have fun whever you want. Don't bother waiting for artificial calendar dates to party and have a good time. You can put up ballons and buy a cake tomorrow if you want. Nobody's stopping you.
Because billions of dollars in merchandising and marketing have not been
spent for hundreds of years mind warping the average "parent" or "family
structure" to worship and serve Gandalf.
you have your six year old look you in the face and tell you that
your are wrong about Santa because he learned in school he is real.
Telling your kid Santa is fake is about as easy as telling
hungry sharks there is no food today
Mark my words there.
Originally posted by Mr Mask
You see...I've been making a list myself...and I've checked it more then twice.
Originally posted by LordBucket
But if your goal is to worship and serve corporatism, you can still do that without lying to anyone. You can still buy presents and stockings and eggnog and stress over shopping and familial relations and do all the other things traditionally done for christmas.
How does the lie improve on this?
That would be interesting. But I would tend to see it as a fantastic opportunity to develop the relationship between child and parent, while simultaneously teaching the very valuable lesson to not blindy trust in authority. Because when your six year old looks in your eyes with fire and anger, insisting that the school taught him that Santa is real...you can very simply hold him and look back into his eyes and tell him you love him and honor who he is an individualand accept that he must make his own choices...and ask him to please remember that you were not the one who told him that Santa was real.
My own experience is different. I have no children,
but I remember very clearly when I asked my mother if Santa was real. She told me that some people believed in him, and some people didn't, but that I'd have to decide for myself.
So I told her that I decided that I didn't believe in Santa, but that I still believed the Easter Bunny was real. And she said that was ok.
And we went right on celebrating christmas. And years later when I decided I didn't believe in the Easter Bunny either, we went right on celebrating Easter.
No drama or trauma involved, nobody lied, and no holidays were harmed in the process.
The role of a parent is not to mold, but to guide.
Originally posted by baddmove
Hey ,Ho ho ho Mr. Mask...
I'm a Pagan and i don't celebrate X-mas at my house, instead...
Me and the wife celebrate YULE..just like the old days...
It falls on the 21st this year and is called "winter solstice" to others...
No Santa...no pressure, and my kids growing up loved it...
you should try it....really...
Happy Yule to you and yours...