A Question For Couples: Would you use the ‘Porn Stick’?

Oh, the irony. Naming something the "Porn Stick", which is supposed catch perverts, is kind of ironic. Dontcha think?

Part of the sickness infiltrating society is the need to 'detect' whatsoever can be detected. This is a powerful socioeconomic trend brought to you by tptb. They make $ selling this sort of crap.

Only question is, what sort of sicko would buy one of these devices? Perhaps the same sort that loads up on monsanto stock. The company making these should be firebombed.

I gotta ask though, playing the 'Devil' here...

You're go to bed late and find your partners diary left open by their side where they fell asleep writing. Not meaning to look, but impossible not to, you see information that explodes off the page at you as you reach for the book and place it on the bed stand...

Or -

You walk by your partner's computer - here you were being nice and kind to bring him/her some milk and cookies and there on the screen (you're partner's gone off to the bathroom) is an email to their 'Ex'...

There's a fine line - in these instances - and a much broader line when you go out and buy a 'contraption' to 'monitor' your mates 'privacy' sure...

I guess therein is the question...

peace

reply to post by silo13


My wife often tells me that she doesn't mind if I look at porn, however as I'm not a prepubescent teenager with hairy palms and a bulging bicep on just one arm, I always tell her that there is no need. I always leave my system unlocked with everything I'm doing (including email) viewable to her. And her machine is viewable to me and never locked.

The ground breaking system we use to protect our data is called "trust" Without it, couples have no right being together.

And lets face it, as she and I both use Vista as our OS and Hotmail for email, it's not like I couldn't hack her system if I did think something was going on her end. lol People should save the cash and learn basic snooping skills if they feel that they need this item.

Rev

if i caught my wife looking at dirty, filthy, disgusting pornography on the internet, i would be severely upset! i would tell her! "WOMAN! WHY DIDNT YOU INVITE ME TO WATCH THIS DIRTY FILTHY DISGUSTING PORNOGRAPHY?! YOU COULD AT LEAST HAVE E MAILED ME THE LINK!" and im positive my wife would feel the same way

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I read (skimmed) the article, but didn't notice anything that said HOW it works. Didn't honestly expect to either.

But say I get sent a photo from someone who isn't my lover, either via email, text, or instant message. I then (like a dumbass) want to save it on my computer or phone. But not being THAT big of a dumbass, I change the file name to "cute kitten pic #5"

Does anyone know how such a program would be able to pick out "naughty" files?

I understand how it will sniff out porn sites. I understand how it would look for key words in file names, but what if a website was named something very normal, or the images were not named?

I really don't know if you, or anyone else around here would be able to answer this, but it's always been a question I have sense I found out that police have the same tech. To me, delete should be be the same as burning up a piece of paper. It's gone. You can't read what's on it, you have no idea what was there. I've known my whole life that this is not the case, but it's always been an area of confusion for me. More so because it makes me question the real space I have available on my computer than I am trying to hide something from someone.

reply to post by iamsupermanv2

I have no idea how it works. If it's .jpg based - searching for all .jpgs, or photo-tye files or what.
All I know is what the article states - the 'Stick' of choice scans your (or their computer) for 'porn' or Chat messages, IPhone calls, etc...

Hey it's all Greek to me... Wait! Can I say 'Greek' on ATS -

peace

If you find the need to use this on your spouse, you might as well end it now, it's already over.

The foundation of any relationship is trust. You break the trust, you break the relationship.

reply to post by peck420

Hey, I agree with your post 100% - but - there's still an element of absolute curiosity that can just absolutely compel you to absolutely snoop - even in the best of relationships.

I just think it's just hard to fess up to - but - I believe there're contributes to this thread even who would take a peek... Then feel like 'doo doo' but they'd still peek.

No, I'm not saying go out and by one of the 'Sticks' - but - I think in all honestly human nature would win out and people would, in fact, 'peek'...

peace

Originally posted by iamsupermanv2
reply to post by silo13

 

To me, delete should be be the same as burning up a piece of paper. It's gone. You can't read what's on it, you have no idea what was there.

On a Windows PC if you delete something then the file disappears from view and is flagged as a file that is no longer required and therefore will be deleted by the OS as space is needed. Also, a simple format will NOT erase your data from your drive. To erase all the data you need to perform a destructive format using an application like Blanco, which is what I used when I worked for the Government here in the UK. Without a destructive format, I could recover most if not all of your drive with some widely available tools without even trying.

Hope this makes sense, if not please feel free to drop me a U2U.

Rev

Yes.

So the kids or someone else doesn't find what we may have allegedly looked at.

Besides, this is only for Pics. The real damaging thing to find is the videos (which according to the add-is coming soon).

Especially if one can tell where the video was stopped etc. Where that videos starts back up is where they finished last. That in itself could be very problematic.

Just saying. Better to be open with your partner and tell them you are going to look (and maybe invite them along). We're married.... no problem.

And to be honest. It's been useful. I guess it all depends what one wants from it.

(I just finished the add-X'ed out, came to ATS and the first thread I saw was this one. Great.)

By the way. They are $99.00 plus $15.00 shipping
Link to one of 3 N. America dealers: www.pimall.com... (bottom of page).

reply to post by iamsupermanv2

The software searches the hard drive using "advanced image analyzing algorithms that categorize images as potentially harmful by identifying facial features, flesh tone colors, image backgrounds, body part shapes, and more" to detect all pornographic images on the hard drive. Read more: news.cnet.com...

This must have been an ''interesting'' assignment for the programmers.

reply to post by Sherlock Holmes


Thanks for point that out, that's exactly what I thought.

Damn algorithms.

My computer, cell phone, email, etc. is and has always been open to significant other.
No spying needed and nothing to hide...

reply to post by silo13


That's part of the trust. It is a two way street.

My wife trusts me, so she doesn't buy a tool to "peek".

I trust my wife, so she has full access to my computer, cellphone, etc.

If she feels the want to peek, she can, or she can ask me and I will show her.

No tools required.

I don't feel like I need any of those products at this time.

But GOD, I sure wish they had been around when I was married to my worst/first wife.

The one that detects chats and texts could have saved me a lot of wasted years.

The porn stick in reality is certainly not what my mind conjured up that's for sure.

That's pretty much my contribution to the subject.

Good for parents, good for divorce rates.

From the article "It's designed to actually go out and find illicit images and content on your computer and allow you to go through them and remove them," Schroader said.


Sounds to me like if you"re worried about it all you need to do is buy the thing and beat them to the punch.

My last girl friend was so paranoid over things that just were not real that it ultimately ruined the relationship. People acting crazy and jealous is a real issue for me now, I can't stand it. I would never use that thing on anyone, much less my significant other, instant deal breaker in my book.

On the other hand it's a great tool for parents wanting to keep tabs on their children. I know if I had kids I wouldn't want them chatting with every friendly screen name across the web. I don't think those sickos are as prevalent as the media would have us believe, but they certainly are out there.

Like others have mentioned though, where will this lead seems to be the bigger question.

I work in the IT dept for a large company. I might buy one and use it on computers that somehow get viruses and spyware even though the users only use it for "business purposes".

Originally posted by silo13
I gotta ask though, playing the 'Devil' here...

You're go to bed late and find your partners diary left open by their side where they fell asleep writing. Not meaning to look, but impossible not to, you see information that explodes off the page at you as you reach for the book and place it on the bed stand...

Or -

You walk by your partner's computer - here you were being nice and kind to bring him/her some milk and cookies and there on the screen (you're partner's gone off to the bathroom) is an email to their 'Ex'...

There's a fine line - in these instances - and a much broader line when you go out and buy a 'contraption' to 'monitor' your mates 'privacy' sure...

I guess therein is the question...

peace

edit on 18-11-2010 by silo13 because: eeek!

Well, the first scenario is practically an open invitation... almost as though they WANTED you to read their diary and if you didn't, you might be letting them down.

I'd like to think that I can let a bit of ogling slide and don't consider myself a snoop at all.
I do have to admit that I am a bit of the jealous type. I don't get jealous often and I certainly don't get violent about it and I don't go around feeling insecure all the time, but in some situations I can get my feelings hurt and feel I should walk away with arms up in the air. I know I've done it to other people completely inadvertently or wasn't aware and I know others have snooped around my stuff. A certain amount of innocent snooping/curiosity is understandable until it becomes false accusations and hurtful nonsense. I would like to think that I will never be in a relationship where I feel the need to buy devices... if I felt that way, perhaps it would be time to evaluate the entire situation altogether.