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A Question For Couples: Would you use the ‘Porn Stick’?

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posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 11:02 AM
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Products track hidden information on electronic devices.


One product getting a lot of attention is the Porn Stick. It's a simple thumb drive that will scan your entire computer and find any current or deleted pornographic images.

It's not just parents who are buying the Porn Stick. In fact, Paraben's biggest customer is spouses, in particular women.

Licensed therapist Scott Peterson counsels men and women dealing with pornography issues and says secretly using the Porn Stick to spy on someone can have serious consequences.


Have you ever read your partner's emails? Chat posts? Searched their computer for ‘explicit’ photos or information? Well here’s a nifty little gadget hitting the stores just in time for Christmas.


It doesn't stop with the Porn Stick. There's the Chat Stick to recover instant messaging on a computer, as well as the iRecovery Stick, which can track down texts, call history and web activity on an iPhone.


I’ve always found when listening at keyholes I find out things I’d rather not - but - would I use the ‘Stick’ to get the skinny on my mate? Thank goodness I’m single so I don’t have to answer that one!

So, I'm curious, you people with partners - Is trust enough or would you use this ‘Porn Stick’ (‘Chat/Instant Message Stick’) on your partner’s computer to find out just what your mates really been ‘up to’?

peace

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posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 11:20 AM
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My partner's computer his HIS. It's private. Using a device like that would be totally inappropriate.


We have very clear rules about what is acceptable in our relationship.

Porn for personal use is no problem. However, any kind of sexual contact ( on-line or otherwise) with another party is not acceptable. We trust each other and I know without a shadow of a doubt that he sticks by the rules, but even if I doubted him, I wouldn't dream of using something like the Porn stick. It's an unacceptable invasion of privacy.



posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 11:21 AM
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I must say the title made me curious



I would much rather my partner search a little porn on the internet than search around for the real thing. Don't think I will add this to my gift lists but if one suspects cheating it might be a good idea. Good for keeping an eye on the kids as well.


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posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 11:24 AM
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I find it amusing how insecure women are in their relationships. In the gym I go to there are mostly fat, out of shape newly divorced women. Perhaps if they hit the gym once in a while while they were married they wouldnt be in this position. As far as the Porn stick, no I would not use it. If you have to resort to something like that then your relationship is already in big trouble.



posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 11:32 AM
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No, I would not use this device. Who cares what porn my partner is looking at? I understand why someone would use it considering that cheating, deception and dishonesty run rampant in relationships. When a cheater is constantly denying and lying to protect the dirty secret (affairs, hookups), the only way to the truth is hard evidence. These devices can provide that. Why it is necessary to be dishonest with the your girlfriend/BF/spouse is beyond me. Those relationships should be safe havens to discuss the ugly truths of this world. Although idealistic, I walk the walk with my partner and we divulge, discuss and work through whatever needs to be worked through. No porn stick needed.



posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 11:35 AM
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Easiest cure for this is honesty.

Frankly so many people are tied up about porn. There are entire support forums dedicated to women and men's stories about partners who are looking up porn and how dejected and disgusting and devalued it makes them feel but ... I don't know. I frankly don't get it.

I don't assume my partner spends all day thinking about me. In fact I know it's a biological impossibility in a digital age. I think sex is too important to take seriously to be honest. Mostly it's about trust and fulfilling one another. My partner knows what I like and what I look at and doesn't care.

If anything the porn stick should be twenty minute conversation with your partner that usually results in three minutes of fun at the end.



posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:02 PM
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posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:06 PM
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i am a guy, and although i am pretty sure my girl doesn't surf porn, i would have to say i don't want to know. too much information can damage a good thing, and although i KNOW the truth often is painful i don't think it would help to know. i mean, yes i have looked at porn online on a few occasions, but seriously my girl does it for me so if she used this or any above stated devices there wouldn't be much to find


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posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:09 PM
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This brings up an entirely different issue that does not only relate to relationships: That anyone can just walk by my computer with a stick and pick up private information. Where is the public outcry on that

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posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:10 PM
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Nope. I don't care if my girl watches porn, and my girl don't care if I watch porn. She just better not cheat or I'ma tie her to the bed set the house on fire.



posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:14 PM
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No I wouldn't use this device on my wife's computer. Sure cheating is wrong; however, mistrust and eavesdropping is just as bad. If one feels compelled to use this device on their spouse/significant other, then one might as well go ahead split up, as the relationship is already over.

Same goes for parents too. If a parent suspects that their child is viewing internet porn, then just go ahead and take the kids computer away. After all, what good does it do to know after the fact?



posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:20 PM
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Spying on your spouse whether your spouse is doing anything or not is going to end the relationship.

Before you go off playing detective make sure you're ready for the relationship to end even if you dont find a damn thing.



posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:25 PM
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Really interesting answers so far.

Dont' get me wrong, I agree - 'No trust - No relationship' - but stillllll... Wouldn't you be a little tempted to open the ol' Pandora's Box (the computer) and take a little peek-see?

And no, not just for Porn, but, the private messages, the IPhone contacts, etc?

By the by, I don't think this is just a 'woman thing' - I think men, though they might not admit it, would do just as much 'key-hole peeping' as women, given the option. Has to do with something called human nature...

peace


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posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:29 PM
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Originally posted by silo13
I think men, though they might not admit it, would do just as much 'key-hole peeping' as women, given the option. Has to do with something called human nature...


Some of us go out of the way not to read other peoples private data, even if its laid open right in front of us. We have this respect of privacy.

Respect of privacy is receding as more and more people get used to stuff like this.



posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:29 PM
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Originally posted by silo13
Really interesting answers so far.

Dont' get me wrong, I agree - 'No trust - No relationship' - but stillllll... Wouldn't you be a little tempted to open the ol' Pandora's Box (the computer) and take a little peek-see?

And no, not just for Porn, but, the private messages, the IPhone contacts, etc?


I think my standard answer to this to my partner is ... my phone is by the bed.

If I'd just started dating and anyone did that to me I would find it creepy and kick them out.



posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:29 PM
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ARGH my first ever double post on ATS.

*DIES*


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posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:32 PM
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I think this is silly, but will sell like wildfire. Silly because porn is porn. Most people who look at it want to just get off quickly. Plain and simple. Either that or curiosity at how some sexual act would work. I have even known people that just find sex interesting and like the voyeurism of it. Most who look at porn don't mean anything bad by it, and I'd even venture to say if their significant other was available at the time, they'd rather have the real thing.

But, like I said, it will sell because people are paranoid and possessive of each other.

What I think the issue here is though: Say my significant other uses this on my computer.(that is mine, I own, I paid for they don't use because it's mine) Do I then have a case against them? Did they legally violate my rights in any way? Could I sue them for the emotional distress caused by the break up, which was caused by them using this device? Could I sue the company that makes them? Could a 17 year old sue their parents for using it on their computer?

And, as 2 other users have pointed out so far, this means anyone can get a flash drive program that sniffs out certain types of files on my computer/phone/ipad/ipod etc etc.

I'm not a "slippery slope" guy, but this will lead to other similar "sticks".



posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:37 PM
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If i didn’t trust my Wife i wouldn’t have married her... I know she feels the same. We both have friends of the opposite sex and it’s never been a problem. Trust is essential in a relationship.

For those people who check their partner’s emails, txt messages, computer history etc... Go and see a psychiatrist because you may be an insecure paranoid control freak.

Just my opinion



posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:37 PM
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Naw if I gotta track her like that its usless to claim her as my woman of trust.
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posted on Nov, 18 2010 @ 12:39 PM
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But, like I said, it will sell because people are paranoid and possessive of each other.


I’m sure that’s what the ‘makers’ of these ‘sticks’ are counting on.
And you have, like they have, hit the nail on the head. Somehow ‘loving’ someone or ‘being loved’ suddenly means everyone must wear ‘blinkers’... UGH!


I'm not a "slippery slope" guy, but this will lead to other similar "sticks".


Exactly, like the article goes on to say there’s ‘Sticks’ for viewing Chat messages, IPhone messages, etc.

Thanks for your post,
peace




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