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Yet your entire post is NOT considered a huge personal attack on me, a member?
Originally posted by joechip
reply to post by Benevolent Heretic
I really wouldn't bother with the poster you're responding to. They have already called you "scum," "cowardly scum" and a "sicko"merely for agreeing with the principles in the OP. Also, that you don't think for yourself, when they realized a woman was capable of taking this position. I think they are a perfect example of why we are given the "ignore" option. Of course, continue if you want, but I hate to see your reasonable, intelligent replies wasted on such a person.
Just my thoughts,
peace.
A child cannot be adopted until BOTH parents sign off on the adiption. A woman cannot just birth a kid and then give it up without the legal permission of the father.
Originally posted by joechip
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
reply to post by Annee
If the same held true for the woman, I would agree with him. My whole position is equality. And since abortion is a legal and valid way for a woman to say, "I don't want this responsibility that I've gotten into", I think the man should have the same option, if possible.
If abortion was illegal, then the man should have to step up and do his part, too.
If abortion were illegal, the woman would still have the options of adoption, and even the "safe haven" laws of legal abandonment (where a woman has a certain amount of time to drop their unwanted baby off at a hospital, fire-station, or with the police. I don't think abortion is the only or deciding factor here.
I did not lump all men into one category here at ATS.
Originally posted by Realtruth
Originally posted by hotbakedtater
No money?? How irresponsible of him to be engaging in behavior KNOWN to result in a new life forming. Gee, maybe he should have thought about that little problem before he had sex?? Just a thought, apparently there are very few men who post at ATS who believe in the concept.
You sound like an extremely angry person, that hates men period. I have listened to your comments with objectivity and open mindedness, but when you start to lump men at ATS into one category you show your true colors.
If you want people to listen to your point of view and understand your argument, try not to alienate 50% of the people you are addressing, by venting latent internal anger and stereotyping.
Peace
edit on 17-9-2010 by Realtruth because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Wertdagf
well if you want to be fair then men should have the right to decline fathering a child. The ladies would be keeping their pants on if they knew that a man could decline financial responsibility. That would take the wind right out of gold digger sails.
Where is the double standard??
Originally posted by AzoriaCorp
Originally posted by hotbakedtater
No money?? How irresponsible of him to be engaging in behavior KNOWN to result in a new life forming. Gee, maybe he should have thought about that little problem before he had sex?? Just a thought, apparently there are very few men who post at ATS who believe in the concept.
A new life forming? I thought it was just a parasite? Your twisted perception on moral ethics doesn’t work for your self righteous remarks. You use the double standard quite often when it suits your arguments.
Originally posted by teamnick
Furthermore, many girls poke holes in the condoms, or will lie about being on birth control. I truly hope some form of male birth control gets developed, so the playing field can be evened. Right now, there's nothing stopping girls from lying and then holding a man hostage for the money, using the child that they then neglect as a pawn to extort money out of the man. Please, man-hating feminists who have been crapping up this thread, tell me how this is morally right, and yet the idea of the man being able to opt out of this is wrong?
As a side note, I have a far simpler solution for men.
Kill the woman before the first trimester is over.
Really? Men get abortions? Men grow babies in their bodies? The man KNOWINGLY and WILLINGLY deposited his portion of dna into the female's body. He gave his say at ejaculation.
Originally posted by peck420
Hmm...if abortion is a "valid" contraceptive...
Then legaly, under the equality laws, men should be able to demand the termination of (at least) their half of the DNA...
Good thing you thought of that one.
Originally posted by Becoming
Originally posted by Hefficide
Men already have reproductive rights.
They have the right to keep their pants zipped if they can't step up to the plate.
They also have the right to get the snot kicked out of them by other guys if they fail to exercise their first right.
edit on 9/16/10 by Hefficide because: missed a few words in all the excitement
You would have a point if no protection was used.
But they should have the right to decline fatherhood if the woman was on the pill and/or a condom was used and a pregnancy still resulted.
Women have the right to decline mother hood if she chooses to spread her legs. Why must the father be held responsible if a one night fling ended up with a pregnancy and the mother chooses to keep the child?
Originally posted by Annee
Because it really is not equal.
Is the man willing to pay to have the fetus harvested and pay to have it placed in a surrogate? Now that would be equal.
Cuz the woman still has to go through 9 months and birth. For some it goes without a hitch. But for others pregnancy and birth can be extremely difficult even resulting in death.
Originally posted by Kailassa
You're saying that if a girl gets pregnant It should be entirely the man's choice as to whether he support the baby he has fathered.
Your justification is that the girl can just go and get an abortion if she feels like it.
You want men and women to be equal when it comes to conception, pregnancy and birth.
Yes, some women can opt out via abortion, but not all can, and no woman should be pushed into aborting her baby.
Perhaps it's a light matter for some, but for me, and I expect I'm representative of many others, abortion equals murder.
So, should the father have a "get out of jail free" card in this case where the woman doesn't?
Should the father still have this right if the woman does not know she is pregnant until too late to have an abortion?
If he changes his mind when it's too late for an abortion?
What about at or after birth?
My husband objected to the fact that our two sons were born with handicaps. Should he have had the freedom to renounce fatherhood and not pay maintenance after he left?
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
My bottom line: If the man doesn't want the child and he signs papers to that effect within a reasonable time period (say 4 months into the pregnancy - so that the woman has time to get an early term abortion if she wants) it would "abort" the man's responsibility and any claim to the child.
What about the right of any child to know its biological parents? Do we just tell little Johnny, "sorry, you don't have a father, because he chose not to be one"? Yes, I know that is happenning already, but should we make laws to encourage it?
The burden of parenthood already weighs far more heavily on the mother. Like many mothers, I've had no equality. After being left on my own with 3 children I can't just say, "ta ta kiddies, I decided not to be a mother any more, bye bye." My life has had to be based around the children.
You appear to be arguing for a world in which they would not even have that.
Originally posted by peck420
Hmm...if abortion is a "valid" contraceptive...
Then legaly, under the equality laws, men should be able to demand the termination of (at least) their half of the DNA...
Good thing you thought of that one.
Irene Vilar worries that her self-described "abortion addiction" will be misunderstood, twisted by the pro-life movement to deny women the right to choose.
Some women do not know who the father is. Some women will lie and not tell you she is pregnant. Some women are low life skanks like that. But that does not change the fact that the father is expected to sign off on an adoption, I have been through several personally. There is an option for unknown, and I do not know what the other option is for, or what that means. What did it mean? What exact bs was filled in? A fake dad's name? That she was raped? It would help to know this.
Originally posted by peck420
reply to post by hotbakedtater
That is not true at all.
There is even a box for the woman to check off during and adoption.
Where it asks who the father is, check "other" and fill in what ever bs you want.
When I adopted my daughter, that was checked, so adoption only needed authorization of mother to proceed.
Originally posted by mothershipzeta
Originally posted by Becoming
Originally posted by Hefficide
Men already have reproductive rights.
They have the right to keep their pants zipped if they can't step up to the plate.
They also have the right to get the snot kicked out of them by other guys if they fail to exercise their first right.
edit on 9/16/10 by Hefficide because: missed a few words in all the excitement
You would have a point if no protection was used.
Women have the right to decline mother hood if she chooses to spread her legs. Why must the father be held responsible if a one night fling ended up with a pregnancy and the mother chooses to keep the child?
Because he knows the deal going in?
You shouldn't be up for random hook-ups, or having sexual relationships with people without knowing their views on birth control, abortion, etc.
Quite frankly, a woman choosing or not choosing to have a medical procedure is none of the man's business. If he thinks he would deny paternity, then he should avoid the intercourse in the first place.
In reproduction, the woman is the passive recipient who then has to carry the child to term. The guy's side of things is EASY and involves only pleasure, yet they want to make it even easier?
Seriously, this is more laughable than white Christians who act as if they are oppressed in America.
Originally posted by hotbakedtater
I guess I always thought you were pro choice, I am sorry for assuming that you were.
I disagree I am closed minded, again I reiterate strength of conviction is NOT closed minded.