posted on May, 25 2010 @ 08:24 AM
I will never be contrary to anyone trying to spread a good word and trying to spread some good into our planet.
That said, I would be very careful with messages like "Think your life is hard? This guy has no legs."
I don't think that is a positive message at all. Yes, every now and then we get lost in our daily routines. We get depressed, we get stressed up, we
get angry, dismotivated, and so on. Everytime we go down the negative spiral, we have to find the strength to go up again. And I don't think that
strength should come from the fact that we have both arms and legs while other people don't.
Look, there is always someone who's in a worst condition than you are. And because they've suffered more, that doesn't take away your right to be
Got robbed? can't complain, 'cause there are some people who have no legs.
Got into a car accident and lost one arm? Cant complain, 'cause there are people who have lost both arms.
Got into another accident and lost both legs? Cant complain, 'cause there are people who have lsot both legs and arms.
Lost all your limbs? Cant complain, 'cause tehre are people who lost all their limbs, plus their sight and hearing.
You can go on and on, till the "cant complain, 'cause at least you're alive. You could be dead, now."
Who has it worse? The millionaire who lost an arm, or the guy with both arms who is poor? Can we really judge that?
I don't think that´s the right way to deal with our lives.
The same way tehre are people who's in worst shape than we are, there are other people who have it better than we do. Or do they? Does it matter?
I don't think we should measure our happiness and sadness comparing it to other people´s happiness and sadness.
Yesterday a guy riding a motorcycle was cutting through traffic and scratched my car. I was very upset and I still am upset. And nobody can tell me I
have no right to be upset because it is just a car and it COULD BE WORSE. It can always be worse than it is. But that is no reason for me not to be
upset about it. Am I materialistic because I care so much about my car being scratched? I don't think so. Heck, I dont even love cars. I got my
driver´s license at the age of 28!
I live my life and it´s things in my life that make sense to me, that are close to me, that are in my context, that will affect me, make me angry,
make me smile and so on.
To say I can't be upset when my car get scratched because something worse could have happened is to say I can't be happy either when something good
happens to me, because something BETTER could have happened. I don't think that´s healthy.
That reminded me of highschool. When I was 14 or something, we had this woman visiting all the classrooms in our school. She was representing a not
for profit organisation that helped kids with some terrible disease I don't remember the name of(it was a long time ago). What I do remember is how
this woman was talking to us.
She was very aggressive, trying to make us feel guilty for being healthy and instead of asking for help she was demanding it, because we had no right
to be happy when others were in misery, so donating food, money, shoes, whatever, was an obligation. To this day I still feel angry about this woman.
First, because she has no right to go to a shcool and talk to kids that way. And second, because she wasted a good opportunity to actually help those
I know that the message carried by that woman is not in the same tone as the message in the video, but it is still about making us feel guilty for
having it better than others and I don't agree with that. Sorry, but I don't. Living in a country that has 300 million people where 70% are poor or
worse, I have heard and seen messages like that my entire life.
I can't drive my car on the streets without having poor kids or crippled men asking for money in almost every stoplight. Do I give them money? No.
Why? First, because of safety. Second, because we know they dont keep the money. Adults take the money away from the kids to buy drugs. Do I feel like
helping them? Yes. Can I help them all? No.
So, what can someone do? My family donates money to charity homes. Can you judge the ammount of hlpe people give to others? No. Is there a price table
of how much you should contribute? No.
So, at the end of the day, all we have to do is try to live a good life, trying to do no harm to others or to ourselves. Help when you can, if you
can. But never feel guilty because you have more than others. It´s not your fault.
You have all the right to feel happy with the most idiotic things. Oh, got a bicycle for Xmas? Cool. Be happy about, 'cause your daddy had to work a
lot to give you that. Yeah, your nighbour couldn't get a bike because his dad is unemplyed. And your other neighbour has no legs, so he can't ride a
bike. But you can still be happy about it.
And when your bike breaks, you can feel sad about it also. Sure, at least you had a bike, while one of your neighbours never had one and the other had
no legs to ride one. But that is their situation and this is your situation. Your life is different than theirs and what makes you happy and sad is
different from what makes them happy and sad.
Is there a HAPPINESS & SADNESS table listing when we are allowed to be happy or sad? How do we build that table? We find the most miserable person in
the planet and use THAT person as the status quo?
I hope people undestand what I am trying to say here.