reply to post by v01i0
Yeah I think you're right, this example of Helsinki in the article is more of a big city phenomena where people in apartment complexes are a little
more reserved.
The other thing I noticed was that he sent out invitations through some kind of billboard, and that is always an epic fail.
In my opinion! you must always knock on their doors in person to introduce yourself as the new neighbour and invite them personally in a friendly way
- otherwise people don't bother.
This place where I lived in Spain and used as an example in my post is a nice middle class neighbourhood located on the coast of Spain. Many who lives
there have moved out from a neighbouring bigger city and commuted one hour by car each direction to work. So the environment in this small town is of
course more relaxed and more friendly there than in the bigger city.
When I lived a short time in an old apartment building in the city of Madrid where we rented an apartment, people were a little more reserved though!
But maybe not as reserved to themselves as the city-people in the Northen Europe are from my experience.
People in our apartment house in Madrid always acted courteously against eachother and said hello and smalltalked a little whenever we met, and they
wouldn't die of a shock if I for whatever reason knocked on their door asking for something - they never invited us to any party though!
And no! I never invited all of them to any party either, we only had any closer relation with one other young couple and a single mum in the building
- the rest were very old people!
The only way we introduced ourselves to the other neighbours was when we met them in the lobby for the first time.
But yes! sure! they were a little more reserved than the people living on the coast or in the countryside in general.
And I think this is a phenomena of city dwelling people in bigger cities everywhere, people are more afraid of crimes and a much tougher environment,
so this involuntary isolation and this behaviour to be more reserved against the neighbours is probably a serious side effect of this environment!
I'm back living in an apartment building in a bigger city here in Northen Europe for the moment, and yes! people keep to themselves more, but at
least we greet eachother courteously and sometimes even have small talks whenever we meet.
So I guess it also really depends on what kind of neighbours and neighbourhood one ends up with as well?
[edit on 21-3-2010 by Chevalerous]