Originally posted by Jess_Undefined
So there it is! Have any of you found your "soulmate"? I would love to hear from those believe in them and those who dont.
Thank you for starting this wonderful thread, just what i needed.
I've been wondering about this lately, as I recently met someone very special to me.
I got pretty burned in the last relationship i had, so i waited and scouted for someone i could call my soul mate, someone i could trust, that would
love me back as dearly and unconditionally as i loved them. I waited for 10 long years, and had just given all up when she suddenly found me, when i
least awaited her. I really love this woman, and I'm under the belief that she loves me to.
However, maybe because of the long wait, the questions and worries keep mounting up. Shes not as cuddly or loving as i am, and i find it heartbreaking
that she only holds me when we're asleep (even thou i enjoy the few nights i get with her, sadly i travel allot). But, this makes me process my need
for cuddling, or my urge for proximity(closeness), makes me ask myself why this is the case, and i see that this only makes me more self aware, but i
still don't want to dampen my cuddliness, to turn down my need for physical contact. I've asked myself several times "Is this woman my soul mate?
Is this really happening? Can i really cope with her being so much "colder" than I? Is this the right thing to do? The questions keep mounting, and
i keep struggling to process all the thoughts, because if i cannot, the relationship will truly end.
I'm a firm believer in that there is such a thing as soul mate, even soul mates, but not in the sense of "perfect for one another". Only the
universe (god) is perfect, we have to endure our faults, experience them and learn from them. Soul mates shouldn't be 100% perfect for one another,
wouldn't that get boring after a while? I think they should complement one another, challenge one another, comfort and help one another, and bring
one another to higher and higher level of understanding and appreciation of each other and the rest of the universe, that is what love really is, all
of existence, both good and bad things, love is all.
“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but
for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.” [/color=Blue]
I could not have said it better myself, thank you again.
Blessed are those who find true love, but don't wait for it(like i did), it most likely won't come till you give up.
And yeah, this is my first post at ATS, and as a Norwegian, I just hope my grammar isn't to bad for you.
Peace and love! - Konrad Santos