posted on Feb, 17 2009 @ 02:12 PM
Wow, guys. Thanks for all of the responses. Like I said, I'd planned to talk to her about it this weekend, and it turned out a lot better than I
thought it would because of some...interesting events. Now, here's what happened (it's a bit of a story so it's going to be kind of long...but it
does get interesting.)
So, I spent the night at her place on Thursday, then dropped her off at work the next morning. I live about an hour away, and we wanted to spend the
whole weekend together, so instead of driving all the way home I hung out at her work for a bit, went to the gym and ran some errands, then came back
and hung out at her work until she got off so I could drive her to my place. It was only a 4 hour shift, so it wasn't a big deal. Anyway, I'm
there for about an hour when the guy shows up. He shook my hand and introduced himself, then left pretty abruptly (first sign he didn't like me
being there.) So I left to go to the gym, came back, and he was there again. I was talking with her, and a few minutes later 2 of his friends show
up. Another 10 minutes later, and they tell her they have to go, and then leave...or so I thought. I went out to my car to grab something, and one
of the guy's friends starts yelling at me! "Hey man. Quit staring at me like you're gay or something. Are you a f*ggot or something?" I
couldn't believe it...I hadn't seen this kind of behavior from someone I didn't even know since Junior High. I walked over, thinking he must be
joking. Sure enough, he keeps talking crap to me. Meanwhile, my gf's friend is trying to get him to shut up. So he keeps going, I asked him if he
was trying to start something, he says "no," but keeps talking crap to me. Eventually, after talking some crap of my own, I tell him to shut up the
next time he thinks about starting something with a stranger (In much more vulgar terms, of course,) and I walk away, back to my girlfriend's work,
and explain what just happened to her.
Now, here's the thing. I'm a pretty big guy. I workout every day, I run, and I box a little. I could have taken this guy no sweat. People in
general just know better than to pick a fight with me for no reason at all, and since I'm a pretty nice guy by nature, I rarely give anybody reason
to. Now, is it a coincidence that a friend of the guy who I feel has been after my girlfriend for the past few months just happens to want to pick a
fight with me? I think not. The whole situation allowed for a pretty smooth transition into "You know, I think something's up with your friend."
And since I was already on edge from almost getting into it with this guy, I was able to communicate my point in a very clear and concise way. I told
her how I feel, that I trust her, etc. I did tell her that I don't trust the guy, but also said that maybe if I get to know him better I'll feel
differently. She seems very much ok with the prospect of me getting to know him better. We talked about it for a while, and it's no longer an issue
to me. We spent the whole weekend together, and she's already planning things for this upcoming weekend. We pretty much have been spending Thursday
night through Monday morning together for the past few weeks, and I can tell that she's still very much into me. I'm pretty perceptive in general,
but even if I wasn't it's very obvious that she's not losing interest.
And just to clear a few things up...She does live about an hour away from my house (but only a half an hour from where I go to college.) She lives
pretty close to her college, and she doesn't drive, so that's why they choose to meet up at her place. According to her, they study in the living
room with her room-mate. So, my conclusion is essentially what it was in the beginning: When the guy found out that she had a boyfriend, he moved
himself into the "friend" zone and is definitely biding his time; however, I'm certain (like I was before,) that nothing's going on between them
and that she has no interest in him. It seems like things have settled for now, but I definitely don't trust this guy.