posted on Feb, 11 2009 @ 09:00 PM
Ok, let me preface this by saying that I in no way distrust my girlfriend. I know that she's not cheating on me -- that's not the issue. It's
important to get that out of the way before I tell you what's going on.
So, I've been going out with this girl since October -- so about 4 months. A few months ago she told me about this "weird guy" in her class that
had been blatantly hitting on her. She told me about some of the weird/sort of creepy things that he was trying to do to get her attention, we had a
bit of a laugh, etc. etc. He's going through the same language program as her in college, so he's in another class with her this semester. A
couple of weeks ago we were hanging out, and she says something about her friend that she studies with, and low and behold, it's the weirdo. And
lately, he's been going over to her apartment to study with her...yep, just her and the guy who's been trying to get into her pants for the past
couple of months...alone in her apartment studying.
Now, as I already mentioned, I know that she's not cheating on me. I know her well enough to know that she's not a cheater, so it's not that
that's irritating me. What's irritating me is that she's naive enough to trust that this guy really wants to be her "friend." Seriously, I
(regrettably) have been "that guy" before. I've never caused a girl to cheat on her boyfriend, but I've definitely made "friends" with a girl
before fully aware that sooner or later the relationship is going to end and I can move in for the kill. I know it was stupid of me, I never got with
the girl, and I won't ever do it again. But still, I'm a realist. I know that this guy is not after a friendship. Anyone with any common sense at
all knows exactly what this guy is after, so what's the deal here? Am I being stupid for being kind of irritated, or do I have a valid point here?
Ever been in this situation before?