Another Female Perspective:
As thehumbleone said:
One of them is that typical "nice guys" fail to make their sexual nature known to a woman. So at worst, the woman does not even have any idea
if this man has any sexual interest in her.
This is true - from my experience anyway. I've always been one of those girls who hung out with the boys (I was in Army Cadets, mostly male
dominated), and as a result I've got a lot of guy friends. I've also lost guy friends... do you see the word I've repeated? Friends
girls, see the nice guy as a "friend".
I had a friend in my Philosophy class last semester, we walked to class, hung out and chatted, and I
assumed we were just friends. I had not
expressed interest, nor had I detected any. Friends. Until one day - he started talking to me about relationship issues, and I was giving him advice -
when I realized he was talking about me. I was so thrown for a loop because I had NOT expected that from him. Long story short - we are just friends,
and he is really nice guy.
Now, I'm not, not-attracted to him because
he is a nice guy. There is simply nothing there, we had one thing in common (our Phil Class) and
really none of the same interests, I felt nothing.
It's not his fault, and it's not my fault - we just simply didn't click.
There are girls who are attracted to jerks - I'll never understand but its true. One of my very best friends is a girl who is attracted to jerks.
Stick her in a room full of nice guys, and she'll find the only jerk in the room and pair up with him. She is a nice girl - who doesn't know that
she can do better. So, why is she able to pick out the only jerk in the room? Because something about him, attracts her.
Why am i attracted to nice guys? Because I saw the way my father treated my mother growing up, and that is what I look for.
I don't know why they break up with you after a few dates or months or whatever, but for me personally, if I sense even the slightest bit of "This
doesn't feel right" I walk away. I don't need to waste your time, and you don't need to waste mine. I give the straight up "I'm sorry I don't
think this is going to work." Yes, I've broken up with nice guys - but they weren't "my" nice guy. They are a nice guy, for someone else who is
still searching for hers.
The way I see it, we're all just puzzle pieces, mixed up in a box. And it takes pulling them out one by one, to find the one that fits. There might
be some that kind of fit, and some that you WANT to fit. But just as you're looking for a nice girl, us nice girls are looking for OUR nice guy. YOU
might be a nice guy - but you might not be HER nice guy. Don't give up , and don't think that turning into a jerk will land you a girl - it won't.
Just be yourself, take your time, and enjoy the dating - there is someone out there who is going to love you just the way you are and you'll find
her. Nice guys win too - just give it time.