reply to post by the titor experience
You appear to have this misconception. Allow me to point out the facts, since I was actually there.
1. While you may consider it to have been a "small spat", it clearly was not to your wife who felt the need to call the cops. The DHR was
also called. Yes, a "small spat"
I did sort of skim this subject as much as possible, because I am not particularly proud of having a argument. Yes, the cops were called, who promptly
realized no actual violence had ever taken place. It was an argument, not a fight, and no blows were thrown on either side. The children were not even
I later found out DHR is called whenever there is an allegation of domestic violence, as a 'precautionary measure'. Notice I said allegation.
You have apparently taken two different episodes from my life and decided they happened simultaneously.
2. Real men do not threaten people with violence, or use it. The claim that mild punishment, such as smacks or slaps, have no detrimental
effects is still widespread because people got this message from their own parents, who got it from theirs. You are a prime example - daddy did it to
me, so its ok for me to. Isnt it funny how you mentioned having suffered depression for 5 years.
So now you are tying a depression caused by exhaustion and overwork, triggered by a business collapse, to getting a much-deserved spanking as a child?
Wow, that is really a leap of logic.
What we have here is a prime example of the problem. Leaps of logic that do nothing more than attempt to tie together unrelated experiences in order
to promote an agenda. Your agenda is clear: you want all physical contact to cease, because you have apparently been beaten (rather than disciplined)
at some point in the past. You cannot fathom how a person can make physical contact with another one unless there is aggression involved. Therefore,in
an attempt to stop all of the violent activities that were inflicted on you, you must take control of everyone's ability to raise their children.
Also, since men are typically more aggressive than women (yeah, right
), all of the blame must be toward the violent males of society, and the
women/children must all be victims. Anything else must, by definition, be a mistake and an error on the judgment of those who actually investigated
See how those leaps of logic can lead us astray?
P.S.: I am proud, proud that I can examine a situation without assuming I have all the facts.