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A Nation of Wimps:
Parents are going to ludicrous lengths to take the bumps out of life for their children. However, parental hyperconcern has the net effect of making kids more fragile; that may be why they're breaking down in record numbers.
By: Hara Estroff Marano
THE HIGHS AND LOWS OF ENTITLEMENT
By Jim Fay
“So, Sara, what’s happening in your life that brings you into counseling with me?”
“It’s my parents. They’re clueless! They are so lame! All they can do is bitch and moan about my credit cards and phone bills. They are so living in the past. They don’t get it. There’s lots more important things than grades. And they don’t have a clue about what kids need. My dad bought me this stupid four-door car. He knows I was supposed to get a convertible. Nobody drives a heap like that to school.”
“When your dad called to set up these sessions, he tells me that money is really tight and that if things don’t change, he will have to consider bankruptcy. Given the situation, do you feel any guilt about the amount of money you spend?”
“Of course not! I didn’t ask to be born into this stupid family. Besides, that’s what parents are supposed to do. They’re supposed to buy great stuff for their kids.”
Children, Entitlement and God
"I have seen my peers dedicate themselves to never raising a child that way. “I will never force my child into religion the way my parents did,” became a mantra. “I will wait until they are old enough and let them choose for themselves.” Those choices, along with the “feel good” experiments of the seventies, have been a dismal failure. The result is an ever increasing growth of what I call “entitlement fixated” people. It is so pervasive that, had I the power, I would make it a new personality disorder designation.
When children are raised to never know failure, they can’t savior the delicacy of success nor can they appreciate the hunger that second place instills. If they don’t learn that we must, at times, do things we abhor for a greater good, they don’t learn self-discipline. If we don’t instill empathy early on, they don’t ever know the complete joy in giving.
Are We Raising a Generation of Pampered Brats?
Are Gen-X Parents Raising Spoiled Brats?
Kathryn J. Alexander's "The War on No: Is 'child-centered' parenting producing a generation of brats?" says that the emphasis in recent years on making children feel secure has had an unfortunate consequence: kids who have never heard the word "no," and so who are unprepared for the real, "no"-filled world.
The message we are sending out to our children is loud and clear; "they should expect anything they want to be handed to them or bankrolled by their parents". Are parents today pushovers? The answer seems to be a very firm YES.
I have a feeling if I stick around this thread for a while, someone will inevitably bring up "loud" and/or "rap music."