Never compare yourself to others, unless you are comparing yourself to the bum lying in the gutter. Anything else can be utterly depressing.
I have to disagree with you on something. It really does matter where you're from, what language you speak, who you have sex with, the color of your
skin... these things all really do matter, to you
. It is only a problem when these things become used to denigrate others.
They matter because we need people with differing points of view to make this world a better place. Everyone has talents and unique qualities that
make them perfect for something... the real trick, of course, is to find out what that something is.
The problem comes about because of the very thing that is making you cry. People seem to somehow find satisfaction in comparing themselves to others,
and then by making those others less in their mind so they feel like more. The only real cure for the racism and hatred you mention is for people to
stop comparing themselves to others.
I try desperately to live this philosophy, but I'll admit it is hard. When I see others who have more, who have no problems getting a new car or a
new house (I refuse to use credit), it bothers me. I drive a 1986 Chevy pickup truck. It's loud, it guzzles gas, and it tends to break more than I
would like it to. My sister has always had a car less than 5 years old and rarely has a breakdown. But then I look at things another way. I know how
to fix a truck that breaks down. She doesn't. She has a monthly car payment. I don't. I have money in the bank. She lives paycheck-to-paycheck. I
also don't need a good mileage vehicle as much as she does, because I drive the semi to work, on the company's fuel (job perk
Even more important though, is what's important to me. I have two children who, while they don't have all the niceties of life like their cousin,
are extremely smart, mature, kind, gentle, and tough. Their cousin can say none of those things, mediocre grades in school, little ambition, and
spoiled. What was important to me, I got. What was important to her, she got. I am satisfied with that arrangement.
I suggest you, like me, concentrate not on the things you do not have, but what you do have. Do not think about what others have; life is a journey,
not a race. Think about your own blessings, and if they do not merit your satisfaction, strive to improve yourself. You can never change your position
by changing situations or others; only by changing yourself.
And Rush is an idiot.
WeedWhacker: You are a NUT!