posted on Jun, 29 2007 @ 02:51 PM
SOT, I agree, in these times, being single means more of a financial struggle.
I was single all my life until I was 49 y.o. (except for 3 yrs. when I was briefly married.) I was a flight attendant, travelled all over the world,
dated and met interesting people, did my art and writing and did alot of things that were wonderful and fun and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
It's what made me who I am today.
Then at age 49, was reunited with an old flame and we moved in together after 6 months. We've been together for 4 years and I wouldn't trade my life
now for anything. My husband is a wonderful guy and very thoughtful, he's a great life partner. He was 58 when we got together.
I have to say that I'm glad I did it the way I did, spending most of my adult life alone until later in life. I think in our youth we should have
fun, learn about the world, travel, etc. and date all the people you want. Later on, most of us have a tendency to want to settle down, stay in one
place and stay in the same job. Well, after 1.5 years, my husband and I retired, moved to the beautiful mountains of Tennessee and we don't have to
work!!! I have no desire to be with anyone else and I got very tired of dating in the last couple years of my singlehood, whereas when I was young, I
had no use for marriage.
I do have to say that we aren't legally married (lots of complications so that divorcing his ex wasn't a good idea) but we are married in the eyes
of our church. I don't think people have to be married but it's a good idea if they have children.
BUT, marriage/partnership is only fun if it's with the right person, otherwise forget it. It's worth waiting for that right person.