California parents are facing legislation that could find themself fined or sent to jail for spanking their children. This legislation has been
proposed by Democratic Assemblywoman Sally Lieber. Republicans have been vocally against the motion, but Governor Schwarzenegger has left the
possibility of being receptive to the idea.
(AP) California parents could face jail and a fine for spanking their young children under legislation a state lawmaker has promised to introduce
Democratic Assemblywoman Sally Lieber said such a law is needed because spanking victimizes helpless children and breeds violence in society.
"I think it's pretty hard to argue you need to beat a child," Lieber said. "Is it OK to whip a 1-year-old or a 6-month-old or a newborn?" Lieber said
her proposal would make spanking, hitting and slapping a child under 4-years-old a misdemeanor. Adults could face up to a year in jail and a $1,000
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I am openly against any sort of violence against children. Spanking is too often done in a fit of rage which acts as a means of resolution for the
parent, rather than a deterrent for the child. I believe if a parent is willing to try, they can find many ways to approach the situation which would
be much more effective than hitting the child. Positive reinforcement, the rewarding of a good behaviour, can not be under estimated. Rather than
hitting the child, it is quite easy to place the child in a time out.
Put a clock in front of the child and allow it to count down for fifteen minutes. If the child moves, put another minute on the clock. They will
quickly realize that they need to behave if they ever want to get what they want. But the key is, consistency. This form of abuse is merely a tool
for parents who are either lazy, or don't know any better. If you don't know better, then I would not personally fault you. But I would highly
recommend taking the strides to inform yourself to how to deal with these negative behaviours.
There is a barrier between parent and child. It acts as the ultimate form of trust. As long as that barrier exists, a child will have an endless
amount of trust for you as a parent. Breaking this barrier, which is what happens through hitting the child, the trust is broken. You have taught
the child that it is OK to hit, and that it is an appropriate way to deal with your anger. When the child goes off to school, becomes frustrated with
a school mate, and then proceeds to strike the child. What would happen? He/She would be scolded for resorting to physical violence, which is
exactly why it is hypocritical and should be avoided by parents.
As a father, would you want your daughters boyfriend to hit her? I would think not. The quote, "Nobody has the right to lay a finger on you" would
definitely be played in this situation. Well, nobody but me?
But as much as I despise violence towards children, I despise the government stepping in on how a parent should actually parent. Yes it is wrong, we
get that. But rather than punishing those who do strike the child, why not teach them how to do otherwise? Don't fine them which is going to take
money away from the children, don't send them to jail, send them to a free course which will teach them how to effectively parent their children.