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originally posted by: tetra50
a reply to: InTheLight
Hey InTheLIght: Thanks for reading and participating.
I know everything you've added here is true: It's a fine line. And it's a complex mix, and yet, most importantly, is the position and circumstance of the people involved, surely, their ages, situations, all that you wrote. There is flirtation and then there is violation. Separating the two is a difficult terrain for sure, but it's necessary we continue to have the conversation...
And primarily, what I am describing is how it makes many of us feel when it's a violation. Men get stripped of their careers and life's work because, perhaps, it's a pattern of behavior and actually how they've run their offices. And what I mean is bluntly: it's a blow job, or you don't get paid a salary anymore.....
Is everyone who pays taxes okay with the American Congress paying out 15 million and having all those people sign NDA's so they won't talk? There many "patterns" of behavior here I am wishing to discuss, and they underpin and define to some degree larger institutions and this paradigm..
regards,
tetra50
is particularly poignant, to me, as so much was lost here in other relationships, all affected by this one secret.
All those years of family thinking I was aloof and uncaring about them because I would never show up for holidays or parties. All those years wasted when all I had to do was say something.
originally posted by: InTheLight
a reply to: tetra50
Do you really want exploration or were you sleeping these last 40 years?
MeToo is not too much, it's not enough.
originally posted by: carewemust
I think a few men grab and touch a LOT of women. Most men don't do this.
originally posted by: tetra50
originally posted by: InTheLight
a reply to: tetra50
Do you really want exploration or were you sleeping these last 40 years?
MeToo is not too much, it's not enough.
InTheLight: Glad we agree, but sad to see you have to insult me to agree with me. This is part of why people that are also women may have been sleeping these last forty or more years, honey: because women just can't support each other, apparently, without insulting each other and competing all at the same time. It's frequently why I don't bother to speak for any of us, because then SOME of us will attack me. Hell, yeah, I have literally been sleeping. Look at some of my threads and you'll see precisely what I mean by that.
Regards,
Tetra
originally posted by: InTheLight
a reply to: tetra50
Do you really want exploration or were you sleeping these last 40 years?
MeToo is not too much, it's not enough.
originally posted by: DBCowboy
a reply to: tetra50
I think the big problem is that as early as 30 years ago, men treated women differently.
Now we can discuss how inappropriate it was back then, but the point I'm trying to make is that we are using todays societal standards to judge yesterdays behaviors.
Some men (obviously most on congress) haven't moved on with the evolved way we should treat women.
There is no excuse for it.
They can either live in the past and get punished or adjust to a more respectful way of treating women.
It's really as simple as that.
originally posted by: tetra50
originally posted by: DBCowboy
a reply to: tetra50
I think the big problem is that as early as 30 years ago, men treated women differently.
Now we can discuss how inappropriate it was back then, but the point I'm trying to make is that we are using todays societal standards to judge yesterdays behaviors.
Some men (obviously most on congress) haven't moved on with the evolved way we should treat women.
There is no excuse for it.
They can either live in the past and get punished or adjust to a more respectful way of treating women.
It's really as simple as that.
Hey DBCowby: There were a few responses in this thread that put this behavior down to generational and past unenlightened, inequality based attitudes toward women. However, rape on college campuses with rohypnol, or just alcohol involved, seems to bear out my point that this is a generalized attitude. Most psychologists will tell you that rape isn't even so much about sex as it is about power over another human being. And yes, it certainly (rape, sexual harrassment) happens to men, as well.
What I've been trying to stress in this thread is sociopathy and use and abuse of power.
regards,
tetra