posted on Sep, 26 2016 @ 01:52 AM
a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha
That's not what I was suggesting either.
Ok... Let's assume that this person is living on the streets, OK? Let's assume that their experience of that is typical, rather than abnormal.
Typically, living on the streets is a dangerous thing, and all the more so for a lady than a man. The kind of dangers involved, even the relatively
mundane ones, are capable of causing post traumatic stress, flashbacks, reliving and all that. More to the point, those dangers include being in
situations that a person did not invite, and that they did not want to be in.
Now, eating a meal seems like a totally safe thing to do. There's no harm or risk in eating a good meal. Right? Wrong. If the meal comes with even
the merest hint of ulterior motive behind it, even a wiff, a pinch, a smidgin, and that wiff, pinch or smidgin is picked up on, that changes the
psychological space in which the meal is being consumed, whether that is the intention of the purchaser or not. That alternative space is not a safe
place for a vulnerable person, and awareness that they are in such a psychological space could be very harmful, even if you have no intention of
making anything of it at the time.
I am not saying that you intend to put her in a box, because you are a nice chap, we all know that.
What I am saying is that you need to be very careful to manage your non-verbal communication, eye contact ratio, intensity and so on, because as I
say, the slightest feeling of being a rabbit in headlights, no matter whether justified or not, could send the entire enterprise down crap alley with