It looks like you're using an Ad Blocker.
Please white-list or disable AboveTopSecret.com in your ad-blocking tool.
Some features of ATS will be disabled while you continue to use an ad-blocker.
originally posted by: SlapMonkey
a reply to: intrepid
You know, but on the flip side, people get "offended" WAY too often these days.
Take an interaction with my aunt on social media last week--she posted an internet meme of Elizabeth Warren talking about "social contracts" to "pay it forward" via taxation on businesses. My aunt posted it because she like the "pay it forward" part, but when I pointed out that this speech is all about forced paying it forward via increased federal taxation (the point of Warren's speech from which the quote was pulled), she got all pissy at me for 'ruining her good feeling' and causing her to get irritated.
All I did was add the appropriate context to the post, yet my absolving of her ignorance to the context of the quote hurt her feelings and made her upset--and then she still commented that she will interpret it whatever way she wants to. Then she deleted the post because of her "ruined feelings."
I mean, come on. We live in a culture (that permeates much of the globe, not just the U.S.) where people live in fantasy worlds contained within bubbles that contain safe zones so that words--even facts--can't hurt them. And when words do hurt them, they throw temper tantrums (not you, so don't infer that from this) because someone dared to stray from the yes-men circle of opinions with which they've surrounded themselves.
You can't always blame the person communicating for the other's reaction. Yes, there are those trolls out there that just say things to get a rise out of people, but many times, if not most, people's reactions to comments really are their "fault," because they have allowed themselves to be groomed to believe that any dissenting opinion or comment is a purposeful attack on their character or (perceived) intelligence.
originally posted by: BO XIAN
a reply to: MystikMushroom
WELL PUT, INDEED.
Though I think that the 'knowing how to control' by pushing emotional buttons is not always all that conscious.
I think it's more reflexive rather than premeditated.
I think it is MORE a kind of striking out--vengence, retaliation, or 'merely' just spewing out of their chronic inner angst and gritch. See my post above.
originally posted by: MystikMushroom
a reply to: BO XIAN
You seem to be obsessed with "attachment disorder" I've seen you bring it up several times.
While I don't disagree it's an issue worth looking at, I don't think it's the be-all-end-all behind all the ills of society.
Also, I don't TRY to piss people off...I am just an asshole in general who will say what he thinks. If in the course of that if you decide to become angry then, yes, it IS your fault.
originally posted by: ketsuko
Another question to ask is:
If something someone does annoys or offends, why must people today err to the side of it being done intentionally with an eye toward annoying or offending no matter how inane a comment or seemingly inconsequential an action it is?