a reply to: IvyNeptune
This video, and the young lady answering the questions... She gets it.
Personally, I find generalisation, such as that exhibited on a near professional level by the question video to which the young lady so
comprehensively responds, aggravates me. The reason for that is simple. When one generalises about an entire demographic, one is bound to be wrong on
as many, or near to as many times as one is right. Surveys also fail to provide accurate representations of the way a group of people would respond to
an idea, concept, or social convention, because surveys are never able to cover one hundred percent of a population, and only by pinning each person
down and stuffing them full of some kind of truth serum, would any answers worth a damn be recorded.
The questions as asked by the feminists in the video, largely speaking, made me angry as hell. I refer, in particular, to those questions which had
to do with rape, men not knowing the difference between yes and no, and questions surrounding the issue of "nice guy syndrome".
Let's break it down. First, on the subject of rape, let me make something clear. I am a man. I would break the knees, pelvis, and spine of any man I
caught raping a woman, or for that matter any other creature with sense organs. Why? Because I have a moral compass that accepts not one little bit of
oppressive, tyrannical or egotistical behaviour. On the subject of men not knowing the difference between yes and no, I have to once again protest.
Sick, deranged, not to mention linguistically challenged males may have trouble with identifying the difference between these words, but the
percentage of men out there who fall into those categories is damned low. So, a question in response to the question: Why is the hardline feminist
world view so utterly incapable of accepting granularity and accuracy as being important elements of opinion forming?
And nice guy syndrome? Let me tell the membership something about nice guy syndrome... Nice guys, genuinely nice guys, have difficulty finding
appropriate lady partners, not because they lack personality, or because they believe that just being a nice guy is enough to win them the affections
of a woman, but because no matter how awesome that nice guy might be, nice guys, if they are genuinely nice, are invisible to the sort of man hating
she witch that would have asked the question in the first place. You know why? Because nice guys are busy doing what they ought to be doing, that
being the appropriate thing. They will not be showboating their skills, or performing any backwoods pea cocking ritual, like getting into arm
wrestling competitions with bigger guys to impress you, or drinking everyone at the bar under the table, or squaring up to the bouncers because they
have allowed their testosterone level to grow past their ability to control. Nice guys will be quietly going about their business, and trying to make
sure that if there is trouble, someone else is the one in it, that if the woman he is with is uncomfortable, she is made comfortable, offering a
jacket when it is cold, holding doors open and facilitating a smooth, uncomplicated, and pleasant evening is had by all.
It might not be very impressive from the standpoint of some clueless harpy that wants a knuckle dragger in her bed, but assuming the nice guy is out
with an actual lady, who values things correctly and understands that the nice guy she says she wants, will not be the one throwing other bar patrons
through the window, or hitting on every girl in the bar to make her jealous, then everything should work out fine...ok?
Look, I like a woman to be strong. There is nothing hotter to me, than a girl that can handle a blade as well as, or better than I can. I would LOVE
to meet a woman that I could survive a revolution with, fighting back to back without any worry that my six is not as well protected as it could be.
But if that necessarily comes with a whole heap of utterly unrealistic BS about my gender, then it can take a dive, because the main issue with these
questions is that they are not questions for, or about men.
They are questions for the small percentage of men, who give their fellow phallus carriages a bad name, and frankly, I am getting a little sick of
being mixed up for one of those fellows. Yes, I am manly, no I do not have a problem with women, and I would seek to defend a woman in distress, not
because I would expect a screw out of it, but because I am a MAN, and men, as opposed to boys and reprobates, refuse to allow anyone to threaten or
harm others, without being countered and aggressively chastised, preferably all the way to the mortuary.
My best friend is a lady. I am a man. Because I am a man, I have never had a repressed desire to have intercourse with my best friend. A sad,
pathetic streak of something that might have been better off drying up in the tip of a condom on the other hand, might have a problem with friendship
Can we understand the difference?
Ivy Neptune, I know that you do not support the mindset from which these questions come, and that probably means that you are a feminist for the
right reasons. Feminism has a job of work to do in many nations on the globe, and probably still has a part to play in places where most of its
healthy and entirely sensible aims, have already been achieved to a degree as well.
However, the people who were asking the questions in the video you linked to, have seriously lost their grip on reality, if they think that the
entire male population, or even a significant minority of them, still feel like it's funny to make fun of periods and those who are suffering from
them, or think that it's cool to be open to forcing themselves on a woman, or any of the utterly skewed, unsupportable assumptions they made about
menfolk during that video.
I find it very depressing, by which I mean I can literally feel the energy draining out of my body, as the neurochemical situation I am in, changes
from positive to negative. I hope that this, so called "third way feminist" thing is not going to become bigger in terms of its following, because
without wishing to bleat, it is hard enough to be a real man in a world like this, in a time like this, without having to be confronted with how even
being the gender I am is apparently wrong. It's the only thing I do reliably well, other than my job, and if I cannot be a little proud of even that
small thing, that does not leave me with much to be satisfied with.
edit on 21-2-2016 by TrueBrit because: Grammatical error removed