Well I lost the love of my life, someone I've loved, mostly in secret, for many years. It wasn't because I didn't love him or he didn't love me. It
was his mother, yup. The reason I never said I liked him all these years was because of his mother, no matter how many times she said we belonged
together, I knew she would sabotage it and boy did she ever! A new level of low and betrayal from someone I looked up to for years!
It started out perfectly then in May she turned, fast. I told him my concerns and he didn't see it and kept saying she loves us together even though
as a woman I could sense that wasn't the case. Well we broke up and a month later he showed up telling me how much he loved me and wanted to be with
me no matter what she said. This woman never had a problem with me until I dated her son. She knows what kind of person I am and what kind I am not.
Well he and I got back together and thats when the crazy began. His mother started taking pot shots at him for being with me. I mean down right mean
and vile things she would say to him. Verbal abuse to the extreme! He would stick up for me and take her crap, which made his life hell. He would stay
with me and tell me things she was saying and I was dumb founded. I never knew that side of her, let's just say i didn't know her at all and clearly
neither does her son.
This went on until the end of November, then he ended it because it was all too much. I was deeply hurt of course yet I understood what he was dealing
with. We wanted to get a place together but she has him convinced he has to stay with her and his sister to survive even though he and I figured out
our budget with helping his mom and sister have their own place. Well a week after we broke up his mom and sister showed up at my place to
"apologize." It didn't sit right with me, the entire conversation didn't. She told me they were moving to NC and wanted me to come yet she said many
times in between her fake apology that he would choose her over love and I would see that. I thought that was rude and creepy! It's not the first time
she made comments about he and I like that. She told me times before if she didn't want him with me she would make sure I wasn't, all things to
intimidate me. I wasn't intimidated by her at all. I always knew they were all very close and even a bit too close but I accepted them all. She also
told me that night she asked my ex husband for $3000! I was like wtf! I again just said ok and filed it in my brain, well they left and she said oh
call Sean now he will be so happy. I did and he was, so happy and in tears. All he ever wanted was for them to treat me the way the always did and he
wanted the same respect he gave them. Not much to ask if you ask me! I told him what she said about moving and he said he wanted to stay here with me
and that if he couldn't live without them he wouldn't want to get a place with me. He said he wanted to start a life with me separate from them and I
agreed. We just wanted to be together without the constant drama she caused.
It was alway something when he stayed with me. She would call and say she was scared (yea give me a break) or she was sick or he should be at the
house so it wasn't empty. She has this insane control over him and his sister. They both feel the need to please her and never upset her. It's crazy!
Well after he and I talked and we're discussing moving in together days later he just stopped talking to me, he's never done that. I was like wtf. So
I waited and finally went to his house. He was upset and said I lied and betrayed him. I was like wtf! When he told me that his mother never said the
things she did say to me that night I knew what she had done. She said I was a liar and she would never say that he would choose her over love. She
said it and her daughter was sitting right there!!! She also said she never asked my ex for money which is a lie because my ex confirmed it. She did
get him to choose her over me but with lies and deceit.
The other night he called me. I was very upset and told him I didn't make anything up. His mother was in the background calling me names like a damn
child! I could hear her saying "I would never say that I wanted you two together." She's so full of it! Well later I called him back and she answered
and went off on me then told me that she didn't just love her son but she was in love with him! I was so sick after that, so many behaviors of hers
over the years made sense with him. She's twisted and sick. He really believes her. It hurts because when he finds the truth out one day it will crush
him. He was so hurt thinking I did this yet SHE DID and is proud of it!
I can't even begin to express how all this has hurt and damaged me. I really loved his mother for years. I looked up to her. I loved how they were all
close and there for each other yet I clearly didn't see the big picture. She controls both her grown kids lives! It's so sad because they don't know
any better. Yes they're grown but they've been so brainwashed by their mother and her lies and constant deceit they can't see how she is. So many
things over the years make sense to me now. It hurts so deep. I trusted her endlessly! She knows I love her son very much but because of her sick love
for him she can't stand another woman in his life. The things she would do and say are that of a jealous female who can't have the man she wants. He
even admitted how her need for control was an issue.
So here I am again, heartbroken. I had never had someone love me like he did, he was everything I ever wanted. We both had a thing for each other over
the years but never said a word. I think in some way he knew what could happen but he took a chance because he fell in love. We were great together,
it was like being with my best friend. I never had a relationship like that yet our only obstacle was his mother. I honestly never thought she would
stoop so low and do the things she has done. She always wanted us together and made comments for years yet when it happens she does all of this?
Why??! She hurt not only me but her own son! He will be so hurt when he finds out. It will probably be years but it will come out. I only hope his
sister who was there steps up but she too is in her mothers grasp!
As much as I love him though I don't think I could ever be with him even if he wanted to. I don't trust his mother. I did but with all she has done I
could never do it again. It hurts me more she hurt him than me and is fine with it! As long as he stays with her I guess!
You can know someone for years and yet never really know them. That's the worst part in all of this. I trusted his entire family and they turned on me
and him and us.
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