posted on Dec, 2 2015 @ 11:08 PM
All online dating is the same, trust me. It all boils down to what your expectations are, how many people are in your area, and the number of dates
you actually go on.
If your expectations of any given site are too high or too low you will either be disappointed, or your brain won't take the endeavour seriously. You
need to approach dating on a neutral level with the full realization that no one on the site owes you anything; and, if you're serious, you should
attempt to always present yourself respectfully.
How large is the dating pool? If you're in a large city, your chances obviously outweigh those of a potential dater in a small or remote area. Always
ask yourself: How far am I truly willing to travel on a regular basis to get to know a potential date? If you live in a metropolis like NYC, even
crossing the bridge can be too much for some. Inversely, dating someone too close in a smaller area can make some daters feel insecure. ...The date
didn't go so well, now I have to see Jim/Jill at the only grocery store in town. This can be a problem for anyone with anxiety; but seems more
prevalent when online dating, as users expect to be able to 'delete' poor matches from their app, and their lives.
How many dates are you willing to go on? A lot, expecting nothing? Great, you're a perfect candidate for online dating. If you're 'pickier', online
dating likely isn't a great match for you, or your emotions. Why? Because, as you scroll through all of your potential matches and pick out the few
who you believe, for whatever reasons, fit your standards you make a tiny mental investment. The chances of something working out with these selected
potentials are ...slim to none. No return on your investment. If you're the type with a long list, make an appointment with a matchmaker, they really
do exist, or turn it over to your most trusted friend with the best opinion of you with the largest friend group.
Otherwise...just...become more social. More people meet their significant other through social connections than any other method.