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originally posted by: jimmyx
if a man questions whether he is committing rape, he shouldn't be having sex with that woman in the first place. the pill has nothing to do with it.
originally posted by: grainofsand
a reply to: EvillerBob
I made reasonable efforts to check and received lies in return. I struggle to see how such a course of action could be lawful?
originally posted by: grainofsand
Wiki - Rape by deception
Rape by deception is a crime in which the perpetrator has the victim's sexual consent and compliance, but gains it through deception or fraudulent statements or actions.
Rape by fraud? N.J. lawmaker introduces bill to make it a crime
This happened to me many years ago, so it is a serious question, although some may not like it.
Boy meets girl, girl and boy are close to having sex, boy says "I don't have any condoms" girl replies "It's cool, I'm on the pill", but that was a total lie.
I would not have consented to sex if I knew there was zero protection from pregnancy.
I did not want another child so my consent for sex would only be if using barrier protection and/or the girl was using contraceptive drugs such as the pill or implants.
Key point, MY CONSENT to sex depended solely on the use of contraception to reduce the risk of a child being conceived.
She lied, and it turned out she was already pregnant from last weekend's guy, but after more lies she moved in with me and I raised the child as my own for 7 years, even after the DNA test when he was born showed he was not mine.
Now I'm not bitching about any of it, life is life, and we make our own mistakes, so please take away any comments like "It takes two to tango" or "You shouldn't have had sex with someone you don't know" or whatever. All that is irrelevant to the OP.
This thread is solely about rape by deception, and I'm interested in thoughts about that, not moral hand wringing about casual sex. The girl admitted to me that she straight out lied that night so rest assured there is no confusion in my story.
I would not have had sex with the girl that night if she had said it would involve zero contraception. No arguments, no misunderstandings, if she had said to me that night in her bed that she was not on the pill (when I asked her) we would not have had sex.
I did not want another child, and I thank science for DNA tests because she probably would have lied that the child was mine.
So ATS, was I a victim of rape by deception?
I would not have consented if she had told me the truth.
originally posted by: grainofsand
a reply to: EvillerBob
I'm loving the cross examination! Loads better than the witch hunt earlier lol.
So do you think my legal case is lacking?
My consent was granted because I believed a lie. How would you counter that assertion in court?
originally posted by: jimmyx
if a man questions whether he is committing rape, he shouldn't be having sex with that woman in the first place. the pill has nothing to do with it.
originally posted by: EvillerBob
The avenues I would likely explore would be (i) she did not believe that to form a condition (the basis of a defence, ie arguing that the offence wasn't committed) and/or (ii) in any event, impossibility (damage limitation, angling for an inchoate offence as an alternative verdict in the hope of chipping away at the sentence).
originally posted by: grainofsand
a reply to: EvillerBob
The defendant knew that the prospective sexual partner did not in any circumstance wish to partake in unprotected sex.
That should be enough surely?
I'm going bed though, been a long day, and it'll prob take an hour or so dealing with the US timezone which focuses on tghis thread later lol.
originally posted by: grainofsand
a reply to: EvillerBob
The defendant knew that the prospective sexual partner did not in any circumstance wish to partake in unprotected sex.
That should be enough surely?
originally posted by: grainofsand
a reply to: nonspecific
She knowingly lied so I would consent to sex, that's for sure, she admitted it lol