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originally posted by: Bilk22
a reply to: TealFox
Been faithful to any woman I was committed to. So yes, there are men that are faithful.
Trust is sacred. It's the rock-bottom foundation of any relationship, and that trust comes in many forms.
What leads you to believe he's cheating other than what your gut is telling you? Not saying you're wrong. Many times, what your gut tells you is correct. However where we feel most vulnerable, sometimes our imagination gets the better of us.
I was in a serious relationship for a few years with one particular person and she always thought I was cheating. However that was never the case, ever. Unfortunately no matter what I did to reassure her, it wasn't enough. Her insecurity caused our breakup. Actually being on the receiving end of her accusations, I became very resentful because of her lack of trust and it ruined our relationship. Hope that isn't the case here.
OK those could be telltale signs of what you suspect, or it could be something else. Maybe taking him up on the counseling offer will reveal the reasons for them.
originally posted by: TealFox
originally posted by: Bilk22
a reply to: TealFox
Been faithful to any woman I was committed to. So yes, there are men that are faithful.
Trust is sacred. It's the rock-bottom foundation of any relationship, and that trust comes in many forms.
What leads you to believe he's cheating other than what your gut is telling you? Not saying you're wrong. Many times, what your gut tells you is correct. However where we feel most vulnerable, sometimes our imagination gets the better of us.
I was in a serious relationship for a few years with one particular person and she always thought I was cheating. However that was never the case, ever. Unfortunately no matter what I did to reassure her, it wasn't enough. Her insecurity caused our breakup. Actually being on the receiving end of her accusations, I became very resentful because of her lack of trust and it ruined our relationship. Hope that isn't the case here.
Just the usual, hiding his phone, not initiating sex as much, taking calls outside, going out to drink by himself, working late, up all night online and not coming to bed with me...just shady things.
originally posted by: TealFox
Just the usual, hiding his phone, not initiating sex as much, taking calls outside, going out to drink by himself, working late, up all night online and not coming to bed with me...just shady things.
originally posted by: beezzer
Been married for nearly 25 years, have never cheated.
OP?
there's someone out there for you, don't despair.
originally posted by: TealFox
Hello!
embarrassing as it is, this is my first post.
I'm just not feeling happy in my relationship because I'm pretty sure my bf is cheating on me.
I just don't get it...I treated him so good and let him do whatever he wants. I stayed faithful and trusting...but he can't do the same.
It's very hard to trust people when there's just so much available these days (facebook, the internet)...
He denies up and down that he's not cheating, but I know in my gut he is.
He suggested couples counseling so I'm gonna give it a try, but I'm not counting on it to fix this.
How can I trust a man?!
originally posted by: Klassified
originally posted by: TealFox
Hello!
embarrassing as it is, this is my first post.
I'm just not feeling happy in my relationship because I'm pretty sure my bf is cheating on me.
I just don't get it...I treated him so good and let him do whatever he wants. I stayed faithful and trusting...but he can't do the same.
It's very hard to trust people when there's just so much available these days (facebook, the internet)...
He denies up and down that he's not cheating, but I know in my gut he is.
He suggested couples counseling so I'm gonna give it a try, but I'm not counting on it to fix this.
How can I trust a man?!
The bolded text is your problem, in a nutshell. How can I trust a man? How can I trust a woman? How can I trust anyone? Trust is based on the relationship you have with another human being. Not on gender. If that trust breaks down. So does the relationship.
If I were your boyfriend, and I read your OP. I would end the relationship with you immediately, no matter how bad it hurt to do so. NO trust. NO relationship. It's over. Time to move on.
How is it my problem if he's at fault here? I HAD trust in him...
it just hurts me so much
Just the usual, hiding his phone, not initiating sex as much, taking calls outside, going out to drink by himself, working late, up all night online and not coming to bed with me...just shady things.
I'm just not feeling happy in my relationship because I'm pretty sure my bf is cheating on me. How can I trust a man?!
I thought the person I'm with wouldn't be a dog, but now I know ANYONE can cheat.