Perents BEWARE!

a reply to: hudsonhawk69
WTF! Really a 15yr old? She sounds like a handful. You know what they say, spare the rod and spoil the child. Like somebody said, tape everything, should not be that hard to do, even the cheapest cellphones these days have a camera. You should keep one around just in case she comes back around, most times the courts will side with the female, plenty of of psychotic people out there, females are no exception.

But really what are you walls made of paper? Even I would not have a easy time punching a hole into a wall. Not saying I don't believe you, but come on a 15yr old. But if your not bull#ing then that is damaging of property, you could evict her ass fast. And coming at you with a knife that is grounds to get KO'd fast no matter were your at or who you are, # most people would just pull out the old 9 and problem solved as that is grounds for assault with a deadly weapon in any court.

Whatever country you life in new Zealand I suppose, really people ever heard of spare the rod spoil the child, and in this case, from what you said if your not lying. Well you should have made a schedule long ago. You know spanking time in the morning, spanking time in the evening, and lets not forget nighttime, and maybe in between as well, you know kind of like brunch only involving more spanking of brats. Around here even the 7yr olds they call it a whooping from there mama or dady for much less then what you describe.

But if your not lets say exaggerating. You should beware least she get bored with her current boyfriend and come back around.

a reply to: Atsbhct

Cheers...

It's all a very long story...

That's why I'm ranting here. Just to get it off my chest and feel a bit more resolved about it. It's far to easy to dwell on the crappy stuff. I just wanna move forward.

Thanks for listening.

When you went thru the system, did you have legal counsel or at least a public defender? If so they should have
pulled up your stepdaughters prior history. You were rail roaded imo.

Even though it's after the fact...get an attorney and get your record expunged if possible. A criminal record will impact you in the future.

originally posted by: hudsonhawk69
It is
She will
And it does

Thanks for your post

That's good. I hate to say it but do not let her back. People like that are luckily fairly rare in the world and they cause a lot of good people a lot of trouble. Eventually she'll cross someone who has nothing to lose and that will be a fatal mistake for her. Until then she'll manipulate her way in and out of trouble and cause a lot of pain for people. Make sure you're not one of them.

Aside from it being a good thing she is gone. The legal mess over something you are not guilty of, is something I would not accept at all.

I would document the facts and get your family to back them up and get the other reports on her behavior.

I would install videos in the house, and record daily interactions and journal in writing any and all conversations of any relevance.

I would write down a dated as much as possible, timeline of events with her.

I would take a lie detector if necessary.

I would also bring up the possible abuse of her father and what her sister is going through, needing treatment but its refused.

I would charge and sue anyone who is destroying my reputation and not investigating.

Also when you had wounds, where were hers? There should have been medical evidence for all that she said happened to her? If not, how would anything she said be taken against what you said? When you did have need of medical attention?

a reply to: galadofwarthethird

Because of the anti smacking laws it is literally illegal to hit your child! On the other hand they can virtually do as they please! A nanny state doesn't work. Having anti smacking laws to protect children is great. However without appropriate laws to protect parent from their children... Then, you this.

It's ridiculous!

a reply to: hudsonhawk69
Yikes! I had one of those, actually two step daughters from Hell....12 &14! They did every single thing that you've described. The 14 year old got pregnant. The 12 year old beat herself with sticks and cut herself. Claimed I did it to her.

I was also abused, bit and stabbed, and arrested for abuse. But fortunately for me, the judge saw things my way and eventually placed the girls in a group foster home AND made them do community service. That might have been because I had called CPS on them myself, in fear for my daughter's safety. There was a paper trail of me reaching out for help and calling 911 too. I was exonerated in court, but not after spending $1000s and losing my house and the life I had know before "them". That was over 25 years ago now. I still have remnants of PTSD from those monsters.

Those girl were so notoriously bad that there are actually national AP News reports on them. They wreaked havoc from Oklahoma to Vegas, from Los Angeles to Hawaii. Last I heard they were doing porn in Burbank.

a reply to: galadofwarthethird

And our walls were made of Gib board. Plaster covered with paper. So YES! They wee almost made out of paper!!!

a reply to: olaru12

I got legal aid which paid for my lawyer (I have to pay it back little bit by little bit). My lawyer waited until the week before my hearing then contacted the prosecuted and the judge. They had a meeting in chambers for about four hours. My lawyer told then that she would rip my step daughter apart on the stand bring up all of her history. My lawyer said that she didn't want to do it to a teenage girl however she was required to act in her clients (me) best interests and she would if she had to. That was when they dropped my charge from Male assaults female (which I plead not guilty to) to common assault (which I plead guilty to) meaning the my step daughter wouldn't have to appear in court and I got a reduced sentence.

originally posted by: mOjOm

originally posted by: hudsonhawk69
It is
She will
And it does

Thanks for your post

That's good. I hate to say it but do not let her back. People like that are luckily fairly rare in the world and they cause a lot of good people a lot of trouble. Eventually she'll cross someone who has nothing to lose and that will be a fatal mistake for her. Until then she'll manipulate her way in and out of trouble and cause a lot of pain for people. Make sure you're not one of them.

I intend to stay out of her way. I just hope that she is finished with me and doesn't continue finding other ways to harass me!

a reply to: windword

WOW!

I feel better knowing that you understand. Cheers!

My step daughter has already been caught selling naked pictures of herself money!

a reply to: Unity_99

Unfortunately you can't sue someone here like you can over there. I don't think that small claims court would touch something like this.

originally posted by: hudsonhawk69
I intend to stay out of her way. I just hope that she is finished with me and doesn't continue finding other ways to harass me!

Yah, well I'm sure you'll stay off her radar as long as you don't cross paths or as long as she has someone else to deal with. Just keep in mind that if and when she loses the other people around her like her boyfriend or whoever, she'll go looking for someone else and you don't want that to be you, but it might be being that you are so close to the rest of her family. Family is always a good source to prey on after all. Best thing is to not engage with her at all regardless of what she does or says. Just politely dismiss yourself and keep distance.

If she's doing this stuff at 15 she's not going to change much without something very serious happening or some meds.

a reply to: hudsonhawk69

If you want my honest thoughts on this,I will give them.But you won't like it.

1.I can't help but feel you aren't telling the whole story here
2.She is acting mentally unbalanced enough that it may well be possible she has been sexually abused in the past by someone.
3.If her mother is siding with her against you,instead of realizing that "hey,I have a major issue with my kid here".Then you need to ditch her as well. The reason I say this,is because yes the little witch from hell is gone,FOR NOW. But she will be back like the terminator said in the movie.
4.The reason she will come back,is other guys when they see how she is half insane,will get rid of her. Guys are going to be thinking,"no piece of butt is worth this". Once they throw her out,she knows who will put up with her stupidity.

Now,my best advice:
You need to go to counseling with wifeypoo and find out what is up with her. Because I hate to say it,but she is stupid for letting her kid hit on anyone she loves,be it herself or someone like a spouse. And why in the hell doesn't she realize that it is too late for this girl,and it is on her to protect her other kids from this lunatic?

I am in no way accusing you of molesting her,what I am saying is that she is acting out like a child that has been abused.SOMEONE somewhere has done something they shouldn't have to her. This is a case of tough love alright. I knew a guy I grew up with in my neighborhood that beat the heck out of his parents.He was adopted and resentful,instead of looking at it as they had loved him enough to make him theirs. The father finally died of stress,and the mother had bruises all over her. Ann Landers said it best,if you are willing to be a doormat,people will treat you as one. This guy knew no bounds. Until he came over to my house one night. He tried to take unwanted liberties with me and got punched in the face.When he retaliated I got him down in my front yard and beat him within an inch of his life. I had no intention of putting up with his bs.

He ran off crying like a little girl,and my mother came out and asked if I thought it was a good idea to beat up guys that badly. I told her I thought it was a wonderful idea. She shook her head and went back inside. She told my father about it and he told her,that if I felt I had to beat him up that bad,he must have deserved it. And he would rather the neighborhood know that if any guys wanted to mess with me,there would be a price to pay for hurting me.

He never bothered me again. He never bothered another girl after she beat the hell out of him for him trying to terrorize her mother. He would stand out in the street and scream names at her mother of the most vile kind. until she got home from school and caught him.

The problem with those boys and girls that I have known that act this way,is their parents are weak and the kids know it. They know what they can get away with and what they can't. If she thought for even one second that she would get the crap beat out of her,she wouldn't do it. At this point yeah you might go to jail for it.But you did already even though you say you didn't do anything to her,now didn't you?

My oldest got cocky with me ONCE. He was 6'2 and feeling his oats that day. I warned him 3 times which is the most I ever give. He learned to fly.One second he was in the kitchen,the next he was in the utility room. I don't advocate running around beating on your children.If they have respect for you,you shouldn't have to anyway. But a lot of kids when they get in their teens will try to 'challenge' their parents rule and see if they can get away with it. You don't let them if you love them. The rules are the rules,if they are sound and right,they stay no matter what. They adhere to them or they leave. She is supposed to be getting help,great,now its time for you and wifey to do the same.Something is very very wrong there.

We all moan about the surveilance thats everywhere, but - FFS dude, why haven't you filmed this girl? Just one vid of her going nuts would have saved your arse in court.

a reply to: Dimithae

I actually agree with you completely.

originally posted by: VoidHawk
We all moan about the surveilance thats everywhere, but - FFS dude, why haven't you filmed this girl? Just one vid of her going nuts would have saved your arse in court.

She has a very well documented history... Unfortunately the legal system just doesn't work that way here. We have an accusatory system. As far as the system is concerned because she called the police first she is right and I am wrong!

a reply to: hudsonhawk69

Sorry to hear man...teenage girls and lies is the equivalent of humans breathing...and thats how police are with domestic violence because they have the fear put into them that if they don't make an arrest they can be sued if something happens later. So often with domestic violence cops jump the gun and make an arrest very very minimal probable cause to force the states attorney to deal with it. You may find the state's attorney is cool about it and drops it to a disorderly conduct or something really low...or even drops it all together. The SA probably drops domestic battery charges more than any other charge.

You need to move and not share your address. But, make certain she has her biological fathers address first.

No one else said it, so I'll say it. This girl sounds like she's on drugs. Mental health issues aside. This child is self medicating.

a reply to: Atsbhct

I think some people are just wired that way , born bad .