The benefits of Oppression
I hear the objection rising up already…. But listen first, read carefully, before you voice it!
In any case, most people know, to form a strong rebuttal, you must read carefully, and find all the tiniest holes to poke- surely some will be found,
but you have to pay attention to be able to exploit them properly.
Recently, I have found myself observing and considering the battle of the sexes, mostly as it rages in my native land, though it probably goes on
everywhere to some degree or another. But the Americans are more explicit on it lately, and the trenches have been dug.
I see differing stances on whether females have been oppressed in the past, as a whole, or if that is a historical lie or misinterpretation. The
feminists claim it is true, the masculinists claim it isn’t.
I’m willing to take a personal stance on this- I say true. In a very specific sense- in terms of opportunities available in society.
Was that enforced by men? Ur…yeah, okay, you can say that, but with the blessing of most females, in either more or less conscious or implicit ways.
I suspect they didn’t much want to go out on the battlefields, and breathed a sigh of relief that they got to stay at home by the fire. I suspect
that part of them didn’t so much like being treated as fragile, but breathed another sigh of relief when they got to be first in the rescue boats
when the ship was going down.
Whether it is oppression through privilege or the oppression in lower social status, exterior oppression has certain affects upon the psyche. The
person limited to doing embroidery in a castle, repetitive isolated movements in a factory or home, their attention is pushed towards introspection.
Instead of discovery and interaction with the exterior world, they become familiar with the interior universe, and the interactions of thought and
emotion and biological effect within themselves.
They watch the subtle play of emotional reactions, and how they are influenced by thought, they learn about this. They can, with time, become masters
of this. They can learn the secrets of endurance- the internal mechanisms which facilitate one to endure difficult, even painful circumstances. They
learn how to change perspective intentionally, in order to call up specific emotions and physical responses.
This is a form of power- which is essentially power over oneself, but not necessarily of the exterior world of objects. However, it can be used to
perform the same manipulations of others’ internal worlds, becoming an indirect influence upon the exterior world.
Yes, emotional manipulation becomes possible through oppression, and if it is continued for a long time, is a knowledge that can even be passed on
through generations. Mothers once told their daughters behind closed doors things like, “The secret is to feed your man an idea, but make him
believe he came up with it all by himself” (followed by instructions or showing through example exactly how that is achieved).
One of my own grudges against feminism comes from my experience with my mother, who was a feminist, and did not allow me to watch shows like “I Love
Lucy” because they painted women as sneaky and manipulative… yet also made claims such as “the trick to getting a man to marry you is pretend
you don’t want to”, and she also got pregnant twice on purpose to get men to marry her! All I saw there was hypocrisy and it repulsed me.
Perhaps she was wanting to escape this long line of practice, not yet free of it herself, but hoping to free future generations of women from it. This
is a difficult feat- “don’t do as I do, do as I say”, is about the best you can try, in those cases.
So I nod to those claims of women being often (I’ll be using generalizations here- let it be known that is what they are- they refer to ratios, to a
majority of said group, but not all) masters of covert manipulation.
I suspect it is the roots of the myths of witches, and of « feminine mystique ». The men I am closest to feel almost powerless faced with their
internal worlds, so either choose to discount and ignore their emotions as much as possible, or just accept that at times, that part is simply beyond
their willful ability to control and they cannot be held accountable for it.
Feminists often insist this is a cop out- men must control their urges of violence, or sex drive, no matter what the external world surrounds them
with. I guess I don’t want to take a stand here and now on that, it is not my focus.
What I wish to assert at this time is this-
If women are good at psychological manipulation, is it necessarily bad ?
I reflect upon my experience as a wife partner and a mother- yes, I manipulate my families internal worlds. I do. Yet, after 24 years of this, my
husband still comes to me when he is feeling down, or confused, or struggling inside. My children still call me up or show up at home when they are
feeling such ways. My sons call me and ask for my advice in matters of the heart and body, my daughter spends a great deal of energy too, on caring
for the psychological well being of her mate, and he trusts her entirely.
I aide them to change persepctive, to step into the shoes of others, to adjust their emotions and thoughts to aid them in their endeavors.
The question might not be whether it is good or bad to have a woman manipulate your interior world of emotion, thought, and perspective, but rather-
what her intents are.
Does she want you to be happy ? Does she want you to live your wildest and most exciting dreams ? Does she want you to experience your personal power
If that is so- what is so bad about letting go and trusting her to skillfully reach inside you and move things around to facilitate that ?
I do understand that trust is not easily given- it shouldn’t be. We should use discernment in choosing partners, whether it be romance or business.
Not every one is worthy of your trust.
Something to consider is the idea of people with similar « vibes » attracting each other… though I do not mean anything mystical or magical,
though they may be experienced as if they were. But that wordless « something » that makes you feel a relation to another is often a recognition of
shared motivations and intents. Superficial people will feel attracted to superficial people. Selfish people will attract selfish people. Selfless
martyrs will attract selfless martyrs.