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originally posted by: signalfire
Excuse me, but you don't fall in love with, or in bed with someone, 'by mistake'.
originally posted by: OrphanApology
Most people won't agree with me but I think there are different types of cheating. If your partner and you have had a great relationship except for that one drunken trip to the Bahamas back in 82' where they had a rendezvous they only remember 4% of due to blacking out...I say that's a little different than someone carrying on an affair behind your back and feeding you lies and manipulation.
I would forgive the drunken mistake or stupid one time deal. I wouldn't forgive an affair because those types of deals are more than sex. It's about respect and that person is repeatedly lying to your face and using you(and most likely other person).
I just don't give that much of a # about one time mistakes like that
originally posted by: Hoosierdaddy71
Some of this comes down to why the cheating happened.
Are you doing something wrong in the relationship to drive your partner away.
Staying with a cheater = lack of self respect?