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Originally posted by Jerk_Idiot
reply to post by hotbakedtater
It is difficult to express a complex situation in effectively sound bites on here. However I will point some things out from my past that I had problems understanding till women explained to me. Even than I did not understand. When I was young I could not understand why any man would hit a woman. As I got older and watched the question changed. It became why did women WANT TO BE HIT BY MEN? Not only want it, ask for it, but even beg for it. This greatly bothered me. The women I saw begging to be hit were not stupid, at least I didn't believe them to be. Yet they were doing things to their man that if a man did it would get him killed. Literally, not figuratively. Why were they doing this? Did they not understand?
As time went on I developed women friends. That means I wasn't for whatever reason trying to crawl into their pants and they did not need me to defend them at the time. Explanations for that at another time. When they were not in danger and realized I was not particularly interested in jumping their bones, Oh my God I must be queer! , they were willing to talk and answer questions. I asked several of them the same question. What really surprised me is all of them gave me the same answer. They did understand. If they could get their man to hit them they were in control. They had forced him to show he cared. They could also make him feel guilty. They had control over him. It was what they WANTED! Their words. I still do not get it. To date I have never hit a women. When they try this I walk away. Even from my wife till she got the message. Care to explain?
Originally posted by amazed
So tell me, in YOUR mind, how are these women "begging" to be hit?
I want a detailed explanation of what you saw, and how these women were begging to be hit.
Originally posted by Brood
Originally posted by amazed
So tell me, in YOUR mind, how are these women "begging" to be hit?
I want a detailed explanation of what you saw, and how these women were begging to be hit.
If they do something to the equivalent or worse than what which would get men a slap from their wives/girlfriends.
Sorry, this question was not directed at me and I certainly dont think ALL women do this, but a lot of them do and there's my "opinion".
edit on 30-9-2010 by Brood because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Exuberant1
reply to post by amazed
I know how to provoke a man into hitting me. It isn't hard.
You just keep yipping away and get even louder as he tries to leave or avoid the conflict. The whole key is to not let up and continue to denigrate him. Block the exits with your body as you insult him. Do not let him extricate himself from the conflict; he is trying to effectively diffuse the confrontation - You must not allow this!
*Do that and any reasonable person of sound mind will agree that the phrase ' begging for it' would describe your actions, or they will agree that you provoked it.
You mad now?
edit on 1-10-2010 by Exuberant1 because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Brood
reply to post by amazed
Nobody is saying they are actually hitting the women, they are saying that many women act like they want to be hit. You can continue making a fool of yourself by raging and going on about some unrelated tantrum you need to get out -- demanding "examples" when they aren't necessary. We won't hit you.
edit on 1-10-2010 by Brood because: (no reason given)
edit on 1-10-2010 by Brood because: (no reason given)
Should I be upset my best friend hit his wife?
My bud is 6ft 220lbs; his wife is 5ft 100lbs. About a year ago he comes to me saying his wife started getting physical with him – punching & scratching his face at home & in front of their six year old. This goes on for a few months, the whole time he’s warning her that she needs to stop, he’s going to hit her back & eventually after four months he does.
She left him for a while & played the abused victim to her family, but when she came back (obviously not afraid of him) she tells him that even if she looses it & hits him, it’s not OK for him to be hitting her back because he’s so much bigger than her.
Originally posted by Brood
reply to post by amazed
Here's an example to support your cause of provoking people and condemning them by their choices of words as if it encapsulates their argument:
Should I be upset my best friend hit his wife?
My bud is 6ft 220lbs; his wife is 5ft 100lbs. About a year ago he comes to me saying his wife started getting physical with him – punching & scratching his face at home & in front of their six year old. This goes on for a few months, the whole time he’s warning her that she needs to stop, he’s going to hit her back & eventually after four months he does.
She left him for a while & played the abused victim to her family, but when she came back (obviously not afraid of him) she tells him that even if she looses it & hits him, it’s not OK for him to be hitting her back because he’s so much bigger than her.
RelationshipProblemHelp
edit on 2-10-2010 by Brood because: (no reason given)
By the way I hate metro sexuals, if I wanted someone like that I would have married a gay man! Enough said!!
Originally posted by Brood
reply to post by mysticalzoe
By the way I hate metro sexuals, if I wanted someone like that I would have married a gay man! Enough said!!
I hate them too! They confuse us gay men... how am I supposed to know that you're straight if your shirt... fits .
I also think the gay men that create metros -- like those in Queer Eye -- are an embarrassment to the gay community.
Originally posted by BaldTaillessApe
Agreed. Just look at the way big advertising companies use sex and objectify women which in turn also de-humanizes them.
Originally posted by hotbakedtater
Women and men who beg to be hit are called masochists. It is a sexual fetish.
So true, women blame men and men blame women, the cycle that never ends. Maybe discussions like this one and the other thread will eventually help end that cycle of blame.
Originally posted by Watcher-In-The-Shadows
reply to post by hotbakedtater
I would say misogyny and misanthropy is what ruins the female/male relationship. But, I do realise it's more popular to blame one over the other.