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Originally posted by hotbakedtater
From the responses in this thread from men it is clear abstaining is far from an option yet men still think after the fact they should have a say.
if the guy doesn't want a child why is he having sex? Babies are a logical end result of sex. He certainly exercised his choice when he chose to have sex. How do you come up with this forced to pay nomsense? Was your sperm forced into the egg without your consent?
Originally posted by ImaginaryReality1984
Originally posted by MR BOB
funny also how we don't see many guys who are pro-choice.
I'm a guy and i'm pro choice, would you care to provide figures for your statement? Ahh of course you can't because you just pulled that statement from thin air.
Having said all of that, if a guy doesn't want a child and the women goes ahead anyway then i don't think that man should be financially culpable. He gets no choice but is forced to pay, seems wrong.
Originally posted by riley
Originally posted by ImaginaryReality1984
Having said all of that, if a guy doesn't want a child and the women goes ahead anyway then i don't think that man should be financially culpable. He gets no choice but is forced to pay, seems wrong.
So that means she would have to factor that into her decision.. if he is not financially culpable she may be forced into having an abortion and do as he wishes anyway. Nice and fair that is. aka. "have this baby and you are on your own". I'm sure deadbeat fathers everywhere agree with you.
After the baby is born.. why should he not financially support it? It does not magically become not his just because he didn't want it.
[edit on 15-4-2010 by riley]
Originally posted by riley
So that means she would have to factor that into her decision.. if he is not financially culpable she may be forced into having an abortion and do as he wishes anyway. Nice and fair that is. aka. "have this baby and you are on your own". I'm sure deadbeat fathers everywhere agree with you.
After the baby is born.. why should he not financially support it? It does not magically become not his just because he didn't want it.
Originally posted by ImaginaryReality1984
Originally posted by hotbakedtater
From the responses in this thread from men it is clear abstaining is far from an option yet men still think after the fact they should have a say.
If a man takes precautions, that being using a condom then should said man still have to pay if a pregnancy comes about and a woman chooses to keep it?
Originally posted by hotbakedtater
if the guy doesn't want a child why is he having sex? Babies are a logical end result of sex. He certainly exercised his choice when he chose to have sex. How do you come up with this forced to pay nomsense? Was your sperm forced into the egg without your consent?
Originally posted by riley
Yes.. there is always a risk of it breaking.. he knows this and he knows full well sex can result in pregnancy. Threatening a woman with poverty so she will have an abortion is sick.
Originally posted by ImaginaryReality1984
A man should not be able to sue a woman to make her have a child. A woman has to carry that child to term and that involves real physical dangers, along with psychological problems post birth.
Originally posted by andy1033
You have your view, and us men who think there should be equal rights will have ours, but you cannot talk about having equal rights if the father is ignored.
Originally posted by maria_stardust
There are also people who feel that if a woman should choose to continue with an unplanned pregnancy against the father's wishes, he should be free from any type of financial obligation towards that child. In other words, men should feel free to engage in sex without any risk whatsoever, as that risk is placed squarely upon the shoulders of the woman. Talk about equality.
Originally posted by leo123
The other side of that argument is that the way matters stand today, women get all the choices but are able to offload part the consequences and responsibilities associated with THEIR choices.
I would hardly call that equality.
Originally posted by maria_stardust
See my above post.
Men have a choice in whether or not they choose to engage in sex. There is always a risk of an unplanned pregnancy when engaging in sex. If men want to engage in sex then they had better be willing to accept the risk that goes along with it.