posted on Nov, 30 2008 @ 02:40 PM
Hey All,
This thread is rife with what I would consider people with absolutely no idea what systematic abuse is all about, nor what options would really be
available to a kid in that position.
Now for a minute, lets look at the math. The kid, didn't start counting out of the womb, so numbers wouldn't be available until he was 4-5 we'll
say 4 for the benefit of the doubt. so that 1460 days he could be counting. (Probably less)
Things have really come a long way in the western world when it comes to people believing in what a kid might say about being abused. However this was
not always the case. In many instances child welfare will try to return the child to their parents after some kind of investigation. (after a week or
so, the kids are often returned) If you were a kid, and being abused, one of many fears you might have would be being returned to your parent where
you would expect revenge would be taken out on you.
The other choice you might have, would be to be taken to a "foster home" where a whole new world of abuse would be coming your way. (children at
school do talk, so there is the possibility that this kid would have an idea what might happen.)
As was previously mentioned, there are many different kinds of abuses, emotional, physical and sexual are the most common. Who's to say that this
kids dad wasn't passing him around with his friend? Of course we haven't heard if this was the case, the core point isn't the abuse, it's the fact
the kid acted and shot both of these guys. However, something made this kid want to shoot both of them.
As is the norm with child cases, we will probably not ever see most of the evidence, however I suspect that having personally grown up in the system,
coming from a seriously abusive situation that this kid felt there was really no other way. I often though, growing up that killing the abuser would
resolve my issues, however my greatest fear at the time was that he might survive. So of course I didn't act on it. My best day as a kid, was finally
being taken away for good, even though I knew that I'd be fighting for everything for the next 6-7 years but to me, that was the lessor of two
evils.
Now, in my case, I managed to turn my life into something, I own a business have a successful marriage of 20 years, and two daughters that have a very
good life. It might be my memories of my childhood that cause me to treat my family well, but I think I would have regardless. Sadly, i am indeed the
exception to the rule. Many of the kids I grew up with are dead, on drugs or alcohol or in jail.
So, should the kid have shot them, probably not. Did he think he has a different recourse? Again probably not. I did see the video of the
interrogation, and I have no doubt that this kid would lie. Often kids will lie when they are in trouble, or when they feel that they will get in even
more trouble by exposing the truth. To a kid, being abused is "normal" until they find out it's really not. Will they blame him for the abuse? How
would he know if they would, and given some of the comments on this board, I have no doubt some people would blame him. In fact, some of you already
have.
So all I'm really saying in this case is it is unfortunate he shot those two guys, but given what I know people are capable of, perhaps it was
just.
Until you have experienced an abusive spouse, parent or stranger you won't really know how far you would go to make it stop. Food for thought.
Thanks for reading
..Ex