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originally posted by: JAGStorm
originally posted by: Deplorable
originally posted by: Annee
Man, just can not come home and take over.
Is that what you think happens?
Pretty jaded if you ask me.
Sorry I have to side with Anne on this one.
I am not a military spouse but a brat. I saw this first hand so many times and not just with my family, but many others growing up.
Sometimes my dad was gone for 6 months at a time, and then he would come and he expected to pick right up. It was very difficult and traumatic when I think back on it, and my dad was a wonderful dad. I now understand how difficult it was for my mom going back and forth from single mom to married wife over and over.
I think things are different in todays military. We also did not have internet like we do today when I was growing up.
I'm 100% the same with my wife. We do things together like travel, but we also have hobbies separately. We also never fight... We can argue a little at times, but never really fight. I asked her one time that our marriage was messed up because we do not fight like other couples. She said, OK what do you want to fight about and I said IDK why ask me?
originally posted by: JAGStorm
Oh my goodness SAME here, we never fight. I heard someone mention that you have to fight because that is passion.
No I don’t agree with that. When you truly marry your best friend there simply is nothing to fight about because you are too busy having a good time.
I went to school in Italy and lived in "the economy ", meaning we lived off base. No base housing, 30 miles from the nearest NATO and Navy bases. And we didn't even have a phone!
originally posted by: SourGrapes
I went to school in Italy and lived in "the economy ", meaning we lived off base. No base housing, 30 miles from the nearest NATO and Navy bases.
And we didn't even have a phone!
originally posted by: JAGStorm
a reply to: SourGrapes
I went to school in Italy and lived in "the economy ", meaning we lived off base. No base housing, 30 miles from the nearest NATO and Navy bases. And we didn't even have a phone!
Same here but not Italy.
We lived close to one base where my dad worked but we had to ride the bus for an hour to go to school on another base. It was nuts. We were in a special assigned house based on my dads rank. It was like a mansion in the middle of a corn field. It was absolutely beautiful but very lonely and isolated.
It's difficult for one spouse to take on both roles and relinquish one role, when their partner returns home. But, it's important to step back and allow that person to resume their role, with support. It's also difficult for the children to adapt.
originally posted by: F2d5thCavv2
a reply to: SourGrapes
I well recall when calling the States from Europe was an expensive proposition that was only seldom done.
These days, the sensation of being isolated from the USA, family, and friends is much reduced thanks to the internet.
Cheers
originally posted by: MagesticEsoteric
a reply to: JAGStorm
Currently separated after almost 22 years married.
I think about stuff like this a lot tbh, humans are fascinating! I'm thinking about other cultures where it's highly typical to spend 24/7 with a lot of people. Could it be the western world has developed unrealistic expectations of relationships or even the individual? Maybe even love? With the right conditions anyone can fall in
Some of the strongest most long lasting marriages in the past were all arranged marriages. They learned to compromise and work together and then love came.