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originally posted by: Sheye
Been reading through this thread and I have to admit one thing puzzles me. Why would your dear friends fiancé choose to send him to the store, so she could proceed to dump on him and his family unless she knew she had willing ears to listen.
Why does she not see you as the good friend you say you are who should be squashing all attempts to diss your friend. You need to tell her to her face sternly that you will have no part in a conversation putting down your friend or his family and you will let your friend know what she said.
Sorry Mike.. but it seems so odd she would choose her bf’s best friend to dump about him . Drunk or not ... I find that confusing.
originally posted by: CJCrawley
a reply to: Mike Stivic
I made a comment because, a while ago, I was in exactly the same situation as you.
I told my friend what I thought of his wife and he told me, in no uncertain terms, that I was out of line. I was cut to the quick at the time, but I later realised that he was right.
Turns out I was right about her and he ended up divorcing her...but I was wrong to interfere.
Even if you think your friend is making a big mistake you've just got to let him make it.
Now, I would never give my honest opinion about a friend's wife unless they asked for it.
None of my business, after all.
originally posted by: FamCore
a reply to: Mike Stivic
when you have someone like that, it's worth biting the bullet (to a certain extent, even biting your tongue) to honor those lifelong friendships/brotherhoods.
After losing my brother I also lost my best friend because of his own mental/personal issues... I wanted to lean on a friend and he wasn't there on any level, just kept ignoring me and when he finally responded he said "just be a man". That wasn't going to help me.
I used to hold it against him but he wasn't able to keep our friendship of almost 20 years a priority. I don't blame blame him
But I used to, and I really do miss him. Don't let These trials come between you. I think sounds like you know what you have to do, even if it forces you to go against your instinct on some level.
originally posted by: Justso
a reply to: Mike Stivic
Neither did I. As long as there is understood mutual respect, the truth can be shared. Maybe it takes almost a lifetime of trust to reach that point, but truth is just about always, there are exceptions, appreciated-and needed.
Best wishes at the wedding-and after.
originally posted by: Mike Stivic
My best friend, for over 30 years is like a brother to me. I consider him family and we actually introduce our selves as such even though we share the same first name.
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Respectfully,
~meathead