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originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: tigertatzen
My mother spent years and lots of money trying to get someone to "fix" me.
I'm so happy I had an open minded mom, but - other then being ridiculously shy and emotional - I never shared my experiences with anyone. I had OBE's since first memory. Used to go "flying" almost every night, especially to the Gray Place. I liked that place. But, never said anything to anyone.
It took a lifetime, but I feel secure and grounded now. Malls I can do. I have trouble with grocery stores.
originally posted by: tigertatzen
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: tigertatzen
My mother spent years and lots of money trying to get someone to "fix" me.
I'm so happy I had an open minded mom, but - other then being ridiculously shy and emotional - I never shared my experiences with anyone. I had OBE's since first memory. Used to go "flying" almost every night, especially to the Gray Place. I liked that place. But, never said anything to anyone.
It took a lifetime, but I feel secure and grounded now. Malls I can do. I have trouble with grocery stores.
You are very fortunate. My mother is a fire-and-brimstone Bible thumper. I left home at 16 and never went back. The last straw was when my mother told me that she only loves me because she's obligated to do so. It used to really upset me, but now I realize that ultimately it is her loss. 😉
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: tigertatzen
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: tigertatzen
My mother spent years and lots of money trying to get someone to "fix" me.
I'm so happy I had an open minded mom, but - other then being ridiculously shy and emotional - I never shared my experiences with anyone. I had OBE's since first memory. Used to go "flying" almost every night, especially to the Gray Place. I liked that place. But, never said anything to anyone.
It took a lifetime, but I feel secure and grounded now. Malls I can do. I have trouble with grocery stores.
You are very fortunate. My mother is a fire-and-brimstone Bible thumper. I left home at 16 and never went back. The last straw was when my mother told me that she only loves me because she's obligated to do so. It used to really upset me, but now I realize that ultimately it is her loss. 😉
Good for you for hanging in there - - - our inner strength seems to keep us fighting for something we really don't quite understand.
I considered suicide about age 9, because I felt so lost. That inner strength is what kept me going. The journey's been hard, but today I'm strong.
I have a complete disconnect with my 2 brothers, it is difficult to cut those ties, because society teaches us they're supposed to be there. I have no regret. I have a life, family, and friends I chose.
originally posted by: argentus
a reply to: tigertatzen
I would suggest to the group that emotional/psychic vampires are not empaths. I cannot absolutely confirm from my own observations that emotive vampires exist. I believe they do -- people who use various dramatic poses to control or influence others. I imagine most folk have been around others that seem to 'drain' them. It's possible to view this as a transference of energies. I cannot confirm that, but I believe it.
Empaths are folk of varied degrees that sense or can allow themselves to sense the underlying emotions of others. In one sense, as with psychic ability, I believe all us are empaths and have psychic ability. Everyone. As with all other [insert deity of your choice]-given abilities, it manifests in people to varying degrees. For me, those that feel they are empaths are sometimes assailed by the rush of collective humanity and individually strong emotion.
I find this difficult to talk about. I'm not ashamed of my beliefs. A majority of my peers believe this is bullcrap. I don't blame them. It isn't scientifically measurable. I also don't believe that it makes me 'special' in any way. It's like having a penchant for music, or mathematics or other creative endeavors. It's just something that exists and to have it is to know it.
Unlike you, perception-at-a-distance is not my forte. I'm not sure I would want that.
Everybody has something to learn, and something to teach. Glad to be here to learn. ;o)
originally posted by: tigertatzen
originally posted by: argentus
a reply to: tigertatzen
I would suggest to the group that emotional/psychic vampires are not empaths. I cannot absolutely confirm from my own observations that emotive vampires exist. I believe they do -- people who use various dramatic poses to control or influence others. I imagine most folk have been around others that seem to 'drain' them. It's possible to view this as a transference of energies. I cannot confirm that, but I believe it.
Empaths are folk of varied degrees that sense or can allow themselves to sense the underlying emotions of others. In one sense, as with psychic ability, I believe all us are empaths and have psychic ability. Everyone. As with all other [insert deity of your choice]-given abilities, it manifests in people to varying degrees. For me, those that feel they are empaths are sometimes assailed by the rush of collective humanity and individually strong emotion.
I find this difficult to talk about. I'm not ashamed of my beliefs. A majority of my peers believe this is bullcrap. I don't blame them. It isn't scientifically measurable. I also don't believe that it makes me 'special' in any way. It's like having a penchant for music, or mathematics or other creative endeavors. It's just something that exists and to have it is to know it.
Unlike you, perception-at-a-distance is not my forte. I'm not sure I would want that.
Everybody has something to learn, and something to teach. Glad to be here to learn. ;o)
I see "emotional vampires" as people who are affected by a psychological disorder. Either inherent or acquired, there is an emotional deficit that has an underlying physiological and/or psychological cause.
originally posted by: voudew
a reply to: tigertatzen
I think I would disagree with the part about needing permission, but I respect your opinion. I agree with it to a point even. No one should someone's happiness, but I don't think the same is true for the opposite. What if at the end of the day you had someone who could take away all the unwanted negative emotions you were basically forced to absorb? Would you still say they needed permission to do so?
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: tigertatzen
originally posted by: argentus
a reply to: tigertatzen
I would suggest to the group that emotional/psychic vampires are not empaths. I cannot absolutely confirm from my own observations that emotive vampires exist. I believe they do -- people who use various dramatic poses to control or influence others. I imagine most folk have been around others that seem to 'drain' them. It's possible to view this as a transference of energies. I cannot confirm that, but I believe it.
Empaths are folk of varied degrees that sense or can allow themselves to sense the underlying emotions of others. In one sense, as with psychic ability, I believe all us are empaths and have psychic ability. Everyone. As with all other [insert deity of your choice]-given abilities, it manifests in people to varying degrees. For me, those that feel they are empaths are sometimes assailed by the rush of collective humanity and individually strong emotion.
I find this difficult to talk about. I'm not ashamed of my beliefs. A majority of my peers believe this is bullcrap. I don't blame them. It isn't scientifically measurable. I also don't believe that it makes me 'special' in any way. It's like having a penchant for music, or mathematics or other creative endeavors. It's just something that exists and to have it is to know it.
Unlike you, perception-at-a-distance is not my forte. I'm not sure I would want that.
Everybody has something to learn, and something to teach. Glad to be here to learn. ;o)
I see "emotional vampires" as people who are affected by a psychological disorder. Either inherent or acquired, there is an emotional deficit that has an underlying physiological and/or psychological cause.
I kind of agree with this. I don't think a true "energy vampire" is aware of their negative energy. I've met some super nice people who are "energy vampire's" - - but, they really don't know why they affect people in a negative way. They're just in a serious deep funk and sad.
I think they are different from those who are aware of connecting with energy and use it for more selfish reasons. As I said in my first post, anyone can be an "energy connector". Those who consider it a gift, treat is as a gift. But, I think there are those who take advantage rather then consider it a gift.
originally posted by: tigertatzen
Ahhh, see you're talking about energy vampires rather than emotional vampires and that is a totally different thing to me.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: tigertatzen
Ahhh, see you're talking about energy vampires rather than emotional vampires and that is a totally different thing to me.
Will check into that. Enjoying your posts.
BTW - - do you know about Judith Orloff, M.D.
The Emotional Vampire Survival Guide: Emotional Freedom in ActionText
www.drjudithorloff.com...
originally posted by: argentus
a reply to: quercusrex
None of the above. I've learned to shut it all off, or risk overload. You open a crack, a thin line when you choose to.
It took a lot of self-debate to reply to this thread.
I cannot explain it but I feel at ease here, communicating with all of you. It's a very strange experience, but a wonderful one as well. Do you feel it too?
originally posted by: ClownFish
a reply to: tigertatzen
I cannot explain it but I feel at ease here, communicating with all of you. It's a very strange experience, but a wonderful one as well. Do you feel it too?
Yes, I do. I'm not at as much ease as I had begun with, but I appreciate your presence, and the discussions. Thanks for joining the thread.
CF
originally posted by: tweetie
a reply to: tigertatzen
Actually, I think you helped her to make a decision because of your 'empathic' support and validation and to find a way to continue with her life which may have not occurred if you hadn't sent her that message.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ClownFish
a reply to: tigertatzen
I cannot explain it but I feel at ease here, communicating with all of you. It's a very strange experience, but a wonderful one as well. Do you feel it too?
Yes, I do. I'm not at as much ease as I had begun with, but I appreciate your presence, and the discussions. Thanks for joining the thread.
CF
Can't say I'm at ease in this thread at all.
With the contributors? Yes. With the thread and OP? No.
originally posted by: ClownFish
a reply to: tigertatzen
I cannot explain it but I feel at ease here, communicating with all of you. It's a very strange experience, but a wonderful one as well. Do you feel it too?
Yes, I do. I'm not at as much ease as I had begun with, but I appreciate your presence, and the discussions. Thanks for joining the thread.
CF