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originally posted by: Stormdancer777
a reply to: olaru12
Most times I can take it, but does having a thinker skin make me callous and lose my sense of compassion?
I think so.
I would have liked to have participated in your topic.
Seriously, the way people treat each other on forums is not healthy, that has been proven .
It carries over into our personal lives and the way be behave.
I used to be a complainer to the mods when I saw, what I thought was inappropriate insults
you need to keep the perception that trolls are just waiting to take a contrary opinion. They see a contest and a chance to prove their intellect, cleverness, imagined knowledge, manliness, ideology etc for some fantasy "prize" in the often silly debate.
This consumes you and there are no answers as more often than not the person will never even try to explain WHY they did what they did or said what they said.
originally posted by: ~Lucidity
What does forgive really mean though?
Accept what is.
originally posted by: Stormdancer777
Most times I can take it, but does having a thinker skin make me callous and lose my sense of compassion?
Seriously, the way people treat each other on forums is not healthy, that has been proven .
It carries over into our personal lives and the way be behave.
originally posted by: BuzzyWigs
a reply to: Char-Lee
This consumes you and there are no answers as more often than not the person will never even try to explain WHY they did what they did or said what they said.
More often than not, the person doesn't KNOW how to explain what they said or did. They themselves don't understand it, and they don't dwell on it, either.
I think it's a shame how few people are able to think, "Why did I say/do that?"
But the reality is - most don't give it a second thought.
IMHO.
originally posted by: Benevolent Heretic
When I've been getting into it with people on ATS for several days in a row, I notice that I have less patience with life in general. I carry an anger around with me. My husband notices, too. That's why I need to take regular breaks from the heavy stuff and either not log on at all or stick to the lighter topics.
I realized that the reason I hung onto the negativity is that I wanted so badly for it not to have happened. In other words, I had hope of changing the past.
When someone says something that hurts me, I have a choice. I can feel bad and sorry for myself, thinking that they shouldn't have said that or they're just being mean, or I can think that they might be having a bad day or something I said set them off and they may not even be aware of it.
originally posted by: Char-Lee
a reply to: igor_ats
Talk to other ppl about you being wronged. It actually doesn't matter that they actually believe or agree with you.
Yes LOl they will call you a complainer and steer clear :-)