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shockedonlooker
reply to post by darkbake
Well, I last dated 27 years ago, but how about friendly skypes? Or is actually seeing the person considered too much too soon these days? I really don't even know, not being sarcastic, the way things have changed!
darkbake
shockedonlooker
reply to post by darkbake
Well, I last dated 27 years ago, but how about friendly skypes? Or is actually seeing the person considered too much too soon these days? I really don't even know, not being sarcastic, the way things have changed!
They have changed ShockedOnlooker! But I told her I wanted to meet up because I didn't like texting, and that got her to meet with me tomorrow and also made the texting less stressful for me because I already knew we were going to chill.
Also - I like your advice about the Skype meeting or meeting up with someone in person. I would recommend doing something like that, especially if that is what you are inclined to want - although a lot of girls are wary that Skype can lead to whatever it is, V-sex or whatever.
My counselor used to do online dating and he told me that one day, he just decided that he was going to ask girls to hang out with him and do something he wanted to do anyway, and it really helped him.
I think with texting, the important thing is still to text someone you want to talk to with things you want to talk about, whatever they may be.
Taking dating seriously is a huge step for me, as well.
I'm used to only having friends because I've had P.T.S.D. in the past and am scared of opening up - in addition to that, I had my heart broken years back and that kind of got me interested in gaming, friendships, music, college, being single, etc. for a while. I loved being single -
One thing that I have noticed is that if you have ever had a best guy friend as a guy, that is basically experience that can be used towards dating - what have you done with him? How have you related to him?
Having a girl over I'm actually interested in makes me nervous. Hmm. Take all of this advice with a grain of salt. Tomorrow the Hammer of Judgement falls.edit on 29amSun, 29 Dec 2013 01:48:06 -0600kbamkAmerica/Chicago by darkbake because: (no reason given)
Daily Horoscope: December 30, 2013
You've recently been gifted with a certain skill in the conversational arts, and you've probably realized that by now. Great. Now get busy using it before the expiration date arrives.
qmantoo
We all have a 'list' of deal-breakers which we wont compromise on. I think it is a good idea to make this 'list' in real life and place some kind of importance to them. If this seems too anal and geeky, then realise that we all have this 'list' inside our head whether we acknowledge it or not. Someone mentioned a few earlier like bad breath, but that kind of thing can put you off someone but can probably be fixed if the rest of the package is OK.
All that said, whether we are dating online or in real life, we will always be mentally ticking off the items on our list of 'essential', 'nice-to-have', 'no-no', and these taken along with the overall package is what motivates us to go further or continue the relationship.
For me, dating in the real world, I could usually tell if things were worth it after about 3 months of going out with someone, and 3 months was a kind of time frame which kept happening time after time until I met someone who 'just felt right' from the start and that lasted 19 years.
KeliOnyx
Alright first you need to drop the feminist crap and the things mommy told you. Second you have to learn to be yourself. And finally you have to learn to play the attraction game. People are most interested in those that are not all that interested in them. The first most important rule to know. The second most important rule with women is always pay attention to what she is doing and ignore what she is saying. There is no such thing as mixed signals her actions will always reveal where you really stand.
havok
I love hearing advice from women that sounds like this but I hate when it's called a game.
I agree with your thoughts, to an extent. Why should we have to ignore what a woman says? Men aren't complicated...we are simple. Mind-numbingly simple. We can't ignore what women say because it's wired into us. Most of the time we ignore what you do or how you act and need a woman to tell us straight-forward...how it's gonna be. Literally. Or maybe I'm just old fashioned.
whyamIhere
We used to do these things called dates.
We actually had to get off our a$$ to meet girls.
I wish you the best and will make one suggestion.
Quit looking....Work on yourself.....get a lot of stuff.
You will be married by this time next year.
Good Luck.
Rainbowresidue
whyamIhere
We used to do these things called dates.
We actually had to get off our a$$ to meet girls.
I wish you the best and will make one suggestion.
Quit looking....Work on yourself.....get a lot of stuff.
You will be married by this time next year.
Good Luck.
What he said.
Maybe I'm too old-fashioned too but I never considered dating a game. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic but meeting my husband wasn't a game I played, I was breathless/speechless when I saw him for the first time.
When it's right, you will know it.edit on 30/12/2013 by Rainbowresidue because: spelling
darkbake
I do my best when I am not concerned about finding a girlfriend.