posted on Feb, 7 2014 @ 05:32 PM
As far as the idea that the world isn't safe for children:
Humans have been on the verge of extinction for the past 10,000 years, and probably a lot longer. Lord knows the hominids as a type have not fared
well evolutionarily. On the other hand, children are such that they can survive a great deal of hardship and still grow up to be well adjusted.
World-wide they survive drought, famine, wars and plagues. The rest is just "first world problems."
As to "why have children."
1) It's lots of fun
2) It is the most intensely satisfying adventure life has to offer. Watching and sharing with someone else, over decades, as they learn to master
walking, then speech, then finding a career, falling in love. All of it. It is a lesson in phenomenology. It'll make you question all your
assumptions, if you are the questing type.
3) I'm a good parent, and it is worth it passing on our parenting skills to the next generation.
4. The love is so intense. I love my wife more than my kids; but she definitely loves them more than me. I'm OK with that. I think it's the
natural order of things. Now, with all that said, my wife and I are uncommonly close, for Americans. We are still ravishingly in love with each
other after 20 years. And next to that, the relationship I have with my kids is incredible too. They often think like me, in a way my wife doesn't.
They even voice philosophy in ways that sound like me; so much that friends of mine laugh, when they look at the world just like their old man. And
my wife.... how much closer could it be for a mother, than the person who once lived inside you, and then drew life from your breast for two years.
now that's intimate, dude.
5. Seriously, some of the closest moments in my life include:
-teaching my oldest son to hunt. There are just no words for that level of almost psychic understanding.
-teaching my 2nd eldest daughter to cook traditional (German) pastry for Christmas.
-talking with my oldest daughter about what she will look for in a husband. (sigh).
-watching the littlest one learn to walk, overcoming special needs to do so. He looked like a marine crawling under the barbed wire in boot camp.
God love him. I kept thinking that was what Nietzsche meant when he wrote about the "will to power." That little man BECAME the force of
overcoming his disability. For him, it was like slaying a dragon or something.
I think God created us to watch us overcome adversity. Especially the adversity in ourselves. Watching people grow up eases the pain of watching my
father as he grows old and nears death.
6) my family is incredibly close, and multi-generational, with nephews, nieces and cousins who live with us for periods as they flee the economic
oppression of the blue states and come to Texas to seek a better life. There's nothing like being the Dad of a large family, sitting at the head of
all tables as we pray and eat. There is no word for that feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction.