posted on Nov, 20 2013 @ 05:31 PM
Even kidding about some things is a bad idea. I know, I know, you did not mean to give the impression that there was something happening between you
and this other woman, but on the other hand, have you read over your comments on FB and tried to understand what that would be like to read from your
GFs point of veiw?
At the very least, that was a bonehead play, and you need to make amends for that, whether you two have a future or not.
If you and your GF have had a long standing relationship, and have known eachother for fifteen years, then your GF should know enough about you to be
able to forgive a genuine balls up on your part. She should know that your sense of humour is pretty odd (which I only get from the fact you thought
it would be hilarious to make a joke date with an ex of yours) and be able to understand how this crap got so messed up, so quickly.
If your GF has made a date with someone in response to this situation then a) shes either having a total meltdown reaction out of desperation and
confusion, or b )she is being a stone cold *thing I may not say on these boards* and you are better off out of it if she is the sort to be doing that.
If she is just flipping out like a ninja, then you need to wait until she stops long enough to talk to her and make things right with her.
To me, this situation seems to be non-optimal. Your GF appears to be very insecure, and you do not seem to have been very careful with your humour.
This combination does not readily lend itself to a harmonious and healthy relationship between the two of you, unless of course, you are both prepared
to work on the parts of your individual psychologies which rub the other the wrong way. The real question appears to be, are either of you prepared to
do that? Are you prepared to be more careful with your communications? Is your GF prepared to see her insecurities for what they are, and work to be
able to trust you? These are crucial if anything good is to come of a continued communion between you two.
I wish you the best of luck in finding out the answers.