posted on Nov, 13 2013 @ 03:13 PM
reply to post by ServantOfTheLamb
But it is
a judgment. Not a judgment of the whole person, but of their action.
The parents do not judge the child, but they can, should, and do judge the crime to have been wrong. Otherwise, why aren't they out committing the
very same crime every day?
The addict isn't judging the person, but they are judging the circumstance. Otherwise, the temptation of being in the same room with a using addict
and the same drugs they are still so drawn to could very possibly draw them back down into addition.
In neither example does either the parent or the addict, say "you are going to Hell" for this. They are allowed to tell the other what they think.
"You messed up, son, and now you have to take responsibility" or "I'm sorry, but as long as you continue to use, I can't hang out with you, or I
might start using again." Some people would call those judgmental statements, and they are - of the circumstances or actions in question
not of the people themselves.
Either way, it doesn't stop the addict or the parent from loving the other in question.
And, I guess, if I am not allowed to judge at all, any action. Then how am I supposed to ever raise my son? He does an awful lot of things wrong right
now because he's less than 5. According to you, I shouldn't discipline him because I might be judging him.