posted on Apr, 26 2013 @ 07:38 PM
My mother was loosely religious, but that had little to do with spankings. My set of conditions are not far different than my mothers were.
-Not very often. That way it means more when you do earn them. (I got it so few times, I can still tell you each occasion and what I did to earn
-Has to be something that could get the kid or others hurt in some way.
-There is a warning to stop, with the exception of absolutely inevitable injury.
-With my Mom, belts were acceptable, but only the non buckle end. In my home we use open hand only. Open hand can still get the point across,
especially if Dad has to do it (an option my mom didn't have)
-Shouldn't leave a mark. I can accept the kind of welts that go down after an hour or so, but not more than that.
-The kid gets a serious talk about why that was unacceptable, and an "I still love you" after it's settled.
Seems to work for us. I haven't (and so far my oldest hasn't) repeated anything that got them that punishment.
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