posted on Apr, 27 2013 @ 12:41 AM
I was a quiet, reserved kid. I never did get in much trouble. I received spankings a handful of times and when I did, I never did the offense I was
being punished for again. Only grandma did the soap things. Things that I enjoyed were often taken away - when I was becoming mouthy and trying to
assert my independence. Also the corner. If we spoke disrespectfully, it was 15 minutes standing in the corner with a speech of why to get out. I once
racked up an hour because I had to have the last word in - and my step-father made me stand in that corner every minute of that hour. The worst was
after, the speech of apology and ownership of why exactly I was in that corner and how it's wrong.
Today - with my own children. I use fairly the same punishment style. Spanking is reserved for life threatening/criminal offenses and are very rare.
The corner and loss of privilege with all other lesser bad behaviors which is almost always. I generally tell them what they did, why it's wrong and
not allowed, and lay down the punishment. It's not up for debate. All of my kids right now want to debate their punishments with me.
For example, just tonight. So we get into an argument, my 5 turning 6 year old boy - his offense was pushing his brother down because he wanted the
toy his brother was playing with. His brother is four.
He say's to me. "I don't want to spend ten minutes thinking in the corner about what I did. I already know I shouldn't push people. I got mad.
Can't I get a spanking and go to my room?"
My response - "Okay, I got your number. You hate standing in the corner - now get in the corner."
His response - "How about I kick you, you give me a spanking and I go to my room?" ARGGGHHH
So I grab his arm and march him to the corner
while he proceeds to try and kick me!!! With me - letting him know he now has twenty minutes in the corner and his father will be hearing about this
later when he gets home from work. They don't do that with dad. Dad says get in the corner and they do.
My husband just started a new job after looking for work now for about three years. All four of my kids are testing the new waters!