posted on Apr, 27 2013 @ 01:07 AM
So, to flesh out my story earlier...
I'm 32 now. My parents, both Christians (as am I), both believed that smacks were all good, provided they were actually warranted. In my case, I'd
be pretty hard pressed to present a case in which I was smacked and didn't deserve it. I earned my stripes
With that said though, as a parent of two children, I've come to my own conclusions.
I likewise believe that a smack every now and then can be a positive thing, but my own conviction is that...
a smack should probably hurt the parent just as much as the child.
If it doesn't, you're probably doing it wrong.
Each of my girls has been smacked before - one of them twice, one of them only once. On each of those occasions, it was just about the worst, most
heartbreaking thing ever - BUT... they certainly both learned their lessons, and never did those things again.
...so that's my feeling. If you get to the point where you're doing it out of pure anger, or if you're not affected emotionally yourself by
smacking, then there's probably something wrong, and you need to look at yourself as much as you need to look at the behaviour of your children.
...oh, and I work in Children's Services, just as another piece of background.
So there you have it.